| Oct 6, 2009 00:02 GMT-6 |
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Dear Guest 11113, Speaking as both a clinical psychologist and someone who has married a Chinese woman I would suggest that you DON"T have a make a decision now. Enjoy the moment and, given enough time, you will have enough behavioral evidence of his feelings. If he does go back to China, you can still continue the relationship (our technological age makes that possible). You could entertain the idea of doing some of your postgraduate work in China (even if only for a year). In other words, you don't have to close off the relationship completely, and you don't need to decide what to do right now. Following your goals does not inevitably mean giving up the relationship, or vice versa. Explore your options, and good luck.
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| Oct 23, 2009 04:14 GMT-6 |
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I'm a Chinese man in 30s and I hope I can help you with your dilemma.
First,people should be discreet to fall in love,in my opinion,because affection costs time and distracts attention unless you are fortunate enough to have a very smoothly developped romance,which is seldom however.
second,since love is almost inevitable experience in life,we have to brave ourselves to face it and learn to make dicisions knowledgably.In your caseI think you'd better tell him directly your dilemma and ask him how to handle these tough problems .Since he arose these problems to you,you can require him to give solutions and,first of all,analyze and prove to you the feasibilities of his perspective.Then,analyze and make judgement on basis of his replies.Of course given your age,I guess,you probably feel it difficult to handle such complicated situations.I know little about him.Generally speaking,in my opinion,if he is very excellent,his promise is more reliable.So you need to make investigations,and then analyze rationally.
Last,because I have never got a girlfriend myself:(,my suggestions are just for your referrence.From my personal experience,I largely agree the advice above of rational programimg and following,which involves less risk.But it is subject to you to decide because after all,only you know best about the specific situation you are in.
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| Oct 23, 2009 04:31 GMT-6 |
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GUEST34106 |
Failed to notice the dates of original discussion and wasted my time.
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