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Thread: Girl to rent a boyfriend to go home during the Spring Festival
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[quote=SHESGOTTOBE,357798]"So, western parents give much more freedom to their children. That's what I adore about western culture. Though, Chinese parents are more "thoughtful" (concerned) about kids than their western counterparts, such "excessive love" does put too much pressure on their kids. At least, I feel this way. Personally,sometimes, I even had kinda weird wish that my parents should give me less love. If they love me less, I would not feel pressurized." Both care about their children. As for being ‘thoughtful’, my observation is Western parents tend to spoil their children with material stuff like giving them gifts and parties every year for their birthdays and giving them cars once they graduate high school. They think that their children should have a better life than them when they were growing up. All my colleagues do that and I suspect this is how they express their love for their children. They also give them a lot of freedom because well, freedom is considered a basic human right which you would want the most for your children. There is also a saying (and a song), ‘If you love somebody, set them free.’ If a Western parent try to show 'too much concern', it is not unusual at all for the child/ren to say, 'Stop trying to run my life!" As for Chinese, love for children is expressed as a ‘concern’ for every aspect of their lives, which sometimes turns into control and become very limiting and suffocating for their children. Many Chinese parents do not see it that way. If they do not show concern, they would seem like they are being bad parents. Either way, both parents love their children, they just express them differently. Generally, there is one aspect in Chinese culture though that is not present in Western, which is the ‘face’. This is a factor in why Chinese parents want to control every aspect of their children’s lives. Chinese parents do not want their children bringing ‘shame’ to the family. In Western culture, this is almost non-existent because basically, Westerners do not care what other people think, at least not as much as the Chinese. [/quote]
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