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[quote=GUEST64810,386459]It is without doubt that after only four months, she has not told you all the reasons for her decision to divorce (note: statistics also show that 70 per cent of divorces are initiated by the WOMAN). And, it is impossible for her to tell you the real reasons because she will want to marry you first before telling you (and even then, it will be up to her and she may never tell you). From my experience (I had a Cantonese galfriend many years ago), Chinese women (men are even worse) are extremely secretive, based on the ancient cultural need or in-built programming to never lose face even if it means death; they would prefer to abort their own children (but cheaply of course) if it means they will not lose face, much more so I believe than a Western woman (keep this in mind if you have not discussed having children yet). Not only are they secretive, they are extremely calculating and manipulative, and usually very spiritually shallow (having been immersed in a non-monotheistic culture for basically thousands of years) in the sense of being responsible for their actions before a supreme spiritual authority: face comes before EVERYTHING and, if your galfriend is a buddhist or Taoist or something along those lines and still worships idols or dead relatives (totally normal in China and all ASEAN cultures except the Muslim) then you will also have to endure many strange things such as not being able to marry on an 'inauspicious month' such as August ('Hungry Ghost Month') and i am not sure you, being a young professional, are willing and ready to endure the grief and torment that all these things will bring upon you.[/quote]
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