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[quote=GUEST64810,386461]Perhaps the reason the Chinese have never bothered to simplify their language is because the culture as a whole might 'lose face.' Have you ever thought about that? Yet the complexity of the language makes doing business with the Chinese extremely arduous and frustratingly slow, if your Chinese business partner speaks or understands little English. The Chinese are the same as their language; they will never change what they said, did, or what they meant to say or do, or what they want you to think they meant to say or so, if it means they will 'lose face.' I cannot (probably) get across to you the supreme importance of this idea of 'face' in their culture and it permeates EVERYTHING, so your relationship with this gal has not begun because she wants it, so much as you want it; and it has not begun by chance but more so by design (once she decided to get involved i mean), because she has designs on you. My advice to you is, if she has been recently divorced (less than three years) or she won't tell you the real reasons she had to get divorced (there were 250,000 divorces in China las year and that is a conservative number based on fake government statistics) or the REAL reason she wants to marry you (remember what I said: FACE comes before EVERYTHING including 'love' which is a foreign concept in China and a Western import; true love does not by and large exist in the cultural mindset here because a wife is considered as property and an asset to be used according to the husband's (AND HIS MOTHER'S) wishes; property, money, career goals, nice job, credit (did I mention Money?) are the MAIN reasons people marry here -- the idea of 'love' being a reason to marry is a poor Western imported joke and the average man here has no consideration whatsoever of this: he is in it for the sex and to have the wife as an asset. Because of this attitude by the men, women in China are used to being dominated and controlled but they have developed MANY coping strategies for this and you had better get this right; if you marry this one, be sure that she will become the power in your family and not you! Her extended family will become the template for every decision (don't be surprised if she wants to invite them to visit you or to stay in the hotel with you on your honeymoon), unless you are an extremely strong individual and can stomach a nagging, domineering, abusive woman who dumped her last husband in spite of the huge social stigma it would cause her, because she met YOU.[/quote]
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