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Thread: How to deal with the lies and the lying liars?
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[quote=CHYNAGYRL,244156]If you are honest with people more often, you might find that they can accept the truth. The premise of white lies (that interpersonal relationships are fragile and easily broken ) isn't true, *unless* people make it that way... My friend, who moved to Canada, after growing up in China told me that when she went back to China, she was surprised by how many white lies her family members told each other on a daily basis. She said it bothered her they feel like they have to lie even about small things to other family members. Chinese parents also teach their kids what to tell other people and what to hide about their family (how to keep face), and it is very complicated and/or confusing. People don't even realize it until they see how Western children grow up and see what a big difference there is -- foreigners allow their kids to be more natural, rather than expect them to be little adults. I learned from my Canadian friends that by being truthful you can find who you really are and be genuinely accepted by others as well. I have to admit that people with excellent social skills are often good at playing games (ie managing or manipulating other's feelings / thoughts), but in my opinion, white lies and playing games are not good habits to get into. Because once you can make a small lie, its only another step to making big lies.[/quote]
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