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[quote=JSUMMERS83,285462]Although things are changing in the bigger cities as western ways make their way across the ocean, the idea that feelings are to be sensed and not spoken remains true for the majority of China.  As a foreigner who has lived in a more secluded city here for the past two years, I can count on one hand the number of times I have heard any husband tell his wife that he loves her - and I'm not using all of my fingers.  To speak of such things can make people a bit uncomfortable.

As for students, at least outside the bigger cities, dating before college is a bit rare.  The reason is the fierce competition to get into college and the pressure that parents put on their kids to do well as students, score high on placement tests, and get a good education.  This leaves little time for "dating" as we know it in the west.

Once dating does begin, as far as I can tell the Chinese don't date widely.  Most dating is begun in a group setting and continues in such a way for quite a while.  I'm still trying to get a grasp of how they get married, though - it seems quite different from what we're used to.[/quote]

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