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[quote=GRIZ326,38081]I imagine it is less common for a Chinese woman to use dating sites than her Western counterparts. I have found that the women are generally divorced and in their forties. My sense of previous posts here and letters with friends is that Asian men are not interested in a "discarded old woman" and seek young girls.

The key signs of scams are: the woman looks like a supermodel; the woman does not respond to your questions; the woman asks for money; woman is registered in one country but lives in another.

S o presuming this woman looks only normally lovely; responds to your questions; doesn't ask you for money; and lives in the same country as her dating club membership...

Examine the tone of her letters. Do they display any personal intimacy - or are they very business-like? Is she using a translator? Be wary of any translator's role in helping you to communicate. I have long suspected that they use the women who seek their help - charging them large sums of money. I do not know that first hand, but it is a grave suspicion.

There is one further concern with having translated love letters: you may have feelings for the translator and not the woman you are writing to. I am a bit embarassed to say that I say this with first hand experience.

The language of love has a very small vocabulary. It works best for teenagers who don't usually have much to say. Spending several days with a woman you cannot speak with can become frustrating for both of you - even if you have strong feelings for each other. If you really like the woman and are comfortable that you are not being sucked into a scam, hire a translator to accompany you to lunch or the park (in this role, translators are fine).

Finally, I believe your underlying question is: How will you know it is okay to put your manly moves on her? I do not know the answer to this question.  People are people, there are babies the world over because deep inside of us we want the same thing and hope to find it in bed.  I suspect that if you made advances, many Chinese women would submit...but not necessarily willingly with burning desire. I further suspect that if there is real love between you, you want to wait for the correct moment.  I hope the women of this site can provide you a more enlighted comment in this regard.

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