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[quote=GAFFER,435374]Welcome to the complications of Chinese life. Terminology can be confusing. Female friends or neighbours are often referred to as Sister. (Sister Ying etc). Male older friends might be Uncle. Chinese translation is often vague and can easily be misunderstood...even by Chinese. If she is using an agency interpreter they sometimes have an agenda of their own and what you are reading might not be exactly what she is sending..... and vice versa. She might also be paying quite high fees for this service.

Two months is a short time (in my opinion) to be getting so serious, having said that, when a Chinese lady makes a decision she usually charges forward regardless. However, being introduced to the Chinese family is akin to becoming engaged. Are you able to communicate at all by Skype or MSN using a web cam? I think seeing the person live is far more reassuring than relying on photos ..... even if you cannot say much.

It is possible that mother and daughter are sharing an email account (on this occasion) but I'm sure daughter has a personal one. (How many young ladies would want mom reading their emails?). Perhaps she just didn't want to give out her own email address to a stranger? On the other hand is mom paying for translations when daughter speaks good English?

I would remain cautious rather than worried. Don't compare a relationship with a Chinerse woman with that of a western one, they are totally different.

The time to get worried is if a request for money arrives. Maybe school or medical bills? This is when you should run for the hills. You probably will however be expected to pay for or at least contribute to the wedding party.[/quote]

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