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[quote=GUEST20149,419845]I entered my thoughts into this discussion back on 27 July 2009 (GUEST22441) and updated on 20 December 2009 (GUEST17319) - check my post on pages 7 and 8.  I married “my Chinese girlfriend” in January of 2010 and our son was born in November of 2011.  I can assure you that we both feel extremely lucky to have found our soul mates in this world and that our future is very bright.

Wow.  What is it with race anyway?  Honestly, I’ve never thought of her as Chinese – she is a tremendous human being, my wife, my best friend, and the person I was always meant to be with.  What else matters?  Do I care that she looks somewhat somewhat different than me (she is quite beautiful, by the way), or that our son was lucky enough to inherit features from both of us?  God no!  I’ve never been happier in my life and I know she feels the same way.

I am saddened when I read posts made by people that insist that when a Chinese woman wants to pursue a relationship with a westerner that means that they are either, (1) looking for some kind of “sugar daddy”, or (2) that the western guy is some kind of loser.  Sure, this might be true in isolated cases; however, I can assure you that the vast majority are looking for someone of ANY race that, (1) truly loves them for the person that they are, (2) shares their values, (3) that respects them, and (4) that will share their future together as equals.  Isn’t this true of anyone, whether mixed race or otherwise?

Once again, I don’t allow myself to sink to the level of people that suggest that I’ve somehow stolen something form Chinese men by marrying a Chinese woman.  From time to time I’ve experienced this kind of thing in person when we walk the streets of Chinatown here in Canada…  …usually in the form of a nasty look, but occasionally in the form of a certain finger being shown, etc.  I’ve always smiled and treated the person with respect.  Ignorance is something to pity, not to be angered by.

In my opinion such cases are usually related to rationalizing frustration when it comes to finding someone special (no matter what race you are) rather than looking in the mirror and realizing that (maybe) they need to put some effort into self-improvement.  If you are one of these people then please read my 3rd paragraph again for suggestions.

How do I feel about my Chines girlfriend (now my wife and the mother of my son)?  I love her more than anything in this world.  Period.

Get over the race issue people.  Open your eyes and see what’s right in front of you - you might find something incredible![/quote]

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