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[quote=SHESGOTTOBE,258930]Great thread going here.

Many Western parents love their independence. In a society where independence and freedom means being able to get on a car and drive to wherever, many aging parents would fight their children to keep that privilege to drive even at the age of 90. LOL!

They raised their children and for years set aside their own dreams so they can send their kids to school or provide for their kids. Don’t they deserve to have that time for themselves so that they can chase their own dreams too? In America, many seniors spend their retirement and new-found freedom to go traveling and camping in their RVs. For many of them, it’s like having another honeymoon after so many years of working and raising families. Many go on cruises and they love every minute of it. When I was in China, I have seen groups of Western seniors on tours. These are the things that they were not able to do before because they were so busy raising their families.

I would get pissed off too if someone tells me that I don’t care about my family just because I live thousands of miles away from them. My father said he will not treat his kids like a long-term care investment. He said he did not have kids just so there would be someone who would take care of him or my mom. Gotta love that pride, haha!

East and West. Having lived in both worlds, I have seen the best and the worst of both cultures so I think it would be unfair to say which one is better. It’s just a matter of preference and preferring one over the other doesn’t mean the other is wrong. I guess I am lucky to have experienced both. It is very different than just hearing it from a third party. One has to live in it to be able to know. Sometimes, we have this tendency to see things in black and white. The thing is life is not just composed of black and white. Life is composed of millions of colors.

By the way, this thread is also discussing the same subject: http://community.travelchinaguide.com/forum2.asp?page=1&i=41285#R258114[/quote]

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