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[quote=GUESTSCOTT,623726]Hi,

It has been very interesting to read a lot of these stories. I live in NY and was born here. I have been dating a chinese woman from Shanghai for about 1.5 years and for a long time she keeps bringing up marriage (she needs a green card so she, actually it would be both of us to visit her elderly 89 year old mother.)

She is very good to me. She cooks, cleans, does laundry, and works 6 days a week. So she is only home for 24 hours a week and then back to the job where she lives.

In talking to a friend of mine who I introduced to my girlfriend as she speaks mandarin also. The friend told me she is just using me for the green card and could be attempting at the same time, find someone else that would marry her. She called my friend after I introduced her to my family as we were still not getting married. My friend is warning me off that women from Shanghai will lie and cheat to get what they want.

Anyway, I did my best today to say that I won't get married and perhaps it is for the best if we breakup. There was a lot of back and forth and she finally agreed to stay with me if we marry in a year.

My friend said she is just using me. She probably has no other place to move her stuff to. She also felt she will most likely pursue othet men to pursue marriage sooner than the year with me.

I want to believe she is genuine about loving me. I have told her that I like her a lot, though I don't love her. We do seem to care for each other and do nice things for the other.

I know that was a lot to read. I was hoping to get insight from others on what is probably going on. Does she really love me or only lying to get her hands on a green card? I know that you can't know for sure, though I am interested to read what others think.[/quote]

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