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[quote=GUESTSCOTT,623732]Part 2
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My friend warned me that she is basically using me to get a green card. I like to think that we are both good to each other. The difference is my girlfriend says she loves me and I only like her. Because she does so much for me it feels good and I am comfortable. So last night trying to process all this new information, I began reading this and other blogs which I can only say has been very enlightening.

So today, when my girlfriend sent me a message I was all ready to say I don't want to be married which is the truth and that perhaps it is best we breakup. She goes on about how we care and are good for each other. How her mother is elderly at 89 years old, while having 3 sisters, a brother, and son in Shanghai. How she wants to bring me to Shanghai to meet her family and she will show me around her city. This is of course after she has her green card.

I do my best to stand firm which was difficult as this is all confusing to me. Here is a person who I thought loved me and I have only become aware that this may be a scam just to get a green card. She continues to lay it on and pull on my heartstrings which makes this all very difficult. The whole time my friend is encouraging me to be strong and that I am doing the right thing and my girlfriend is only using me. I want to believe there was something real with my girlfriend though now I have no idea. What if she has been dating when she is supposed to be working? I have no way to confirm that. I have never seen a picture of her family, so for all I know the information that she has told me is all false. Since she is older, we can unprotected sex as she won't get pregnant. What if she is also sleeping with other men?

When I told my friend that my girlfriend is from Shanghai, my friend tells me that she told my friend a other city. She then specifically that Shanghai women can be very manipulative and will lie and cheat to get what they want.

We ended up with my girlfriend saying she is willing to wait another year. My friend warns me that she probably doesn't have anywhere else to go and will stay at something my place and continue to use me until she figure something else out and then leave me. From my opinion that sounds fine with me if for the moment I get back the same caring relationship we had before even if it may be for a short time.

My eyes have been opened even if I still want to believe she really cares for me. I don't know for sure if I will really be able to marry her in another year, let alone we will still be together by then anyway. After reading some of the horror stories outnumber the good stories on here, I am concerned what married life would be with her. Will she file the green card papers and leave me. Try to manipulate me to bring her family over from China? Not happening. Become an evil tortuous woman? Try and get what little savings I have? I am concerned about all of that now.[/quote]

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