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[quote=BARONTWANGLE,285369]Jimmy B.  I don't think you need much guidance on this topic.  Being a gentleman is more to do with consideration for others rather than manners.  If you are considerate (not only to the girls) then manners will generally follow without effort.  My mother raised to me to consider others all the time.  It doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your own benefits, as contrary to popular belief, it is possible to be considerate and selfish at the same time.  By doing something simple such as holding open a door for someone right behind you, doesn't cost anything, not even time (if the system works properly).

One thing which I really don't understand in China, is why people stop in doorways or other narrow places to have a conversation or check directions, or read a message on their phone.  The favourite place for Chinese people to do this is at the entrance or exit to an escalator.  The result is that everyone behind then piles up and causes mass congestion.  It would be inconceivable for me to do this, as I would automatically stand to one side so as not to obstruct anyone else.  Drivers in China do this too, when they are not sure which way to go at a junction, they will just stop in the middle of the road while they try to figure it out.  Why they can't just pull over to the side is a question I cannot answer.

It seems no matter how hard Guangzhou metro (or Beijing Metro) try to educate people to stand on the right of escalators, allowing the left to stay clear for people who want to walk, the Chinese would just rather block the entire thing.  The same goes for allowing people off a train before rushing on (even when there are no seats to fight for).  If a English Gentleman witness the crush which occurs every time a train door opens, he would conclude that the Chinese are very impatient people.  But then show him how they all stand rather than walk on the escalators, and he will be totally confused.  It makes no sense at all, and I think it is just down to a lack of consideration for others.  The list of other way the Chinese are inconsiderate is endless, but they are not necessarily rude or ill mannered.

The Chinese seem to be very considerate to friends and family, they just don't seem to be able to extend the service to strangers.[/quote]

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