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[quote=AMPILOT,359021]I did get a chuckle out of  the  Men Have More Drama comment.  After you have been married a long time,  you fall into a routine, life becomes very predictable, career advances, kids come along, material crap piles up, has to paid for, and life becomes mostly predictable  amid an ever escalating mass of responsibilty, to work, to clients, to kids, to spouse. And you do it, because, you are a guy, and this is what good guys do, we faithfully discharge our responsibilities to the best of our ability.  However, something changes while we do all this year after year.  Spontaneity is replaced with routine, you feel alot more tired,  weekends come along and you think, thank God, now I can get some real work done because the phone won't be ringing,and I really need to work because the kids need to go to college.  Your circle of friends becomes tighter to exclude the single people and to include only other married with kids couples,  and then once the kids come along and all their activities,  you really don't have time to see even those  friends all that much because this one has a kids's baseball game, and that one has piano lessons, and the recitals, and so on and on.  I find that in order to see  any friends at all we have to make appointments with them weeks in advance.

About two years ago I met an old buddy of mine who I had not seen in 20 years, and after we spent some time together and got alone,  he was commenting about how much change had occurred in me, how I had become so much of a family man, so serious, so driven by career.  Initially I thought he was complementing me. I answered,  why yes, thank you, I have had alot of personal and professional growth over the last twenty years.  It took me awhile to realize that while he respected the path I followed, it wasn't exactly a complement.   He wasn't disparaging my choice of lifestyle, so much as correctly observing the youthful spontaneity, excitement, craziness, devil may care person that used to be me, was GONE.

To go on the Prowl - hah, I enjoyed that comment too .  Guys like me that are ball and chained to  career and family and with all that goes with it, don't have time or the energy or even the confidence to go on the Prowl.   I was just titting after a job in a foreign port having that oh so essential glass of wine to unwind before dinner and WHAM, this vision of loveliness slams into my life like the Titantic hitting an iceberg, with the potentially the same consequences. And no, she was not on the prowl for me either. She seated me at a table, I saw her glance at the ring on my finger, business was slow, we had  polite conversation followed by a flash of mutual recognition, which followed with deeper conversation .    And now, I get to figure out how to reintroduce my Old Self into my life as it is now, minus her.

Well, I see things now in a new light.  My old self is not GONE, just buried, thats all.   
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