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[quote=AMPILOT,359051]I concur, one can over analyse.  However,  this is new territory here and I need to understand the cultural dimension this takes place in very quickly.    You guys have been a little too loud on what I am doing and a little too quiet about what is happening in China,  so I hunted around  and found the Chinese have a word for it,  Er'nai.   Per wikipedia (where anyone can be an instant expert) says "Chinese men have been able to legally have only one wife. It was common for privileged Chinese men to have a wife and various concubines, however. For those who could afford a dowry and support a family of multiple concubines and children, polygyny provided a better chance of issuing heirs"

I guess it slowed down some after 1930, but then picked up again with CHinas - and Taiwan's - economic boon "Taiwanese businessmen have gone to China to invest and do business there. While in Taiwan, many have become involved in extramarital affairs with local women, creating an international division of labour in both families and intimate relations. Taiwanese wives are categorized as 'the first wives', a term that is largely associated with the conventional duties of a housewife as the primary caregiver for the family. Chinese women are categorized as 'mistresses', a label that portrays them as intruders into these Taiwanese families and stigmatizes them with the strong sexual and entertainment implications of their relationships with these men"  ( http://www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/118670888/abstract?CRETRY=1&SRETRY=0 )

Who are the Chinese mistresses?  "BEIJING - Many women in China resort to the pariah status of being a mistress to a married man not because of love but economic survival, a survey said. Conducted in the southern province of Guangdong, where many rich Hongkong and Chinese men put up mistresses in apartments, the survey found that 74.5 per cent of mistresses became an er nai or 'second wife' to shake off poverty, the Chinese news portal Sina.com said.  Only 13 per cent of the women said they did it for love while 42 per cent said it did not bother them never having a legal marital status. Most of the mistresses were poor young women from the countryside or those made unemployed in cities.

The survey said the widespread practice of women becoming mistresses highlighted the lack of social security in China, where the poor are left to fend for themselves with minimal or no help from the government. "  http://straitstimes.asia1.com.sg/asia/stor...,163916,00.html (http://straitstimes.asia1.com.sg/asia/story/0,4386,163916,00.html)?

I have no conclusions yet, really really have to think this through now.[/quote]

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