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[quote=GUEST19293,329787]Well as an American woman married to a Chinese man and living in China...I think Lenardo has it basically right. Personally I think most Chinese women are stronger then American women, I have yet to see a Chinese man as a head of the household. They tend to be more submissive when it comes to home life. BUT the problem is when you go out into society that Chinese women will act submissive to give their husbands face. This is not a trait that North American women share and the Chinese men tend to have a hard time dealing with that. Western women will also talk about their bedroom life to their friends which can put Chinese men off. You'd be surprised to know that most Chinese find themselves inferior to others. It's instilled in them when they are very young, by parents, teachers, and most leadership figures. It's a way to control them and their choices. If you don't believe that you can make these BIG decisions in your life then of course you're going to get counsel from those people you have been trained to trust (your family).

Now on the other hand I know many American/ western men who came specifically to find a Chinese gf/wife and got married only to find out that Chinese women aren't the little dolls they thought they were. These women are first and foremost concerned with their status and what it means to be a 'Foreigners Wife'. That means money, status, green card, and someone to do their will. It is very rarely that love is actually involved (in the beginning at least) since she would be more concerned with what he could offer her. They automatically think that ALL westerners are rich and that this will help their family. I know a man who just got married last week to a Chinese man and she was VERY upset that his family did not present her family a gift...she said the gift had to be at least $10,000USD to give her family face. When he said that his family didn't have that kind of money she actually slept at her parents house for the honeymoon. BUT he had told her from the beginning that his family didn't have money but she wouldn't accept it. For everyone who goes to a Chinese wedding you should present the couple with a red packet of money. The Chinese 'brides' and their mothers actually make a list of how much each person gave to them so that they could know who not to invite for the next function and how much to give to them if they got married.

Luckily I found a Chinese man more American then me...hahaha...but it's true. Thank God![/quote]

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