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[quote=ROGERINCA,243357].........One last thought Ron….I don’t usually go down this road, on this site, however, I will for you. You appear to be a mature individual; but just remember to be very patient with Lao Po after she arrives. I have [many] friends who have married women from China. Most have been very happy, but some not so happy. You can make this happen and be one of the successes, however, it takes a lot of attentive work, each and every day !! Trust me, at some later date, you will remember my words to you !! It can take as long as two years for the acclimation process to occur with her. She will be homesick and the language/cultural differences, especially in Michigan, will be pronounced for her. Even if she assures you she will be ok, these feelings are normal/natural and they will occur. You will have to be very patient and understanding with your new wife. She will miss her home, her friends, her family and the cuisine she is used to. Get a good calling card plan such as e-call china, or one of the internet based ones. Enable her to call home often. Let her know, that in a year or two, you will both be able to visit her family in Harbin again. This is important for her to have this comfort. Find a good Asian market where she can purchase ethnic foods and seasonings. Get CCTV on your cable TV service, subscribe to one of the Chinese newspapers in the US. Love her, baby her, respect her, and never let yourself get impatient nor angry with her, if she is having a bad day. When my Lao Po finally arrives here in California (with the largest ethnic Chinese population in the US) we will have known each other for over two and a half years. We will have been married for well over one year. I will have communicated with her on the telephone multiple times each and every day, and had a minimum of six visits to her and her family in China. Even with all of this, I still know I must work hard at the relationship, everyday she is here with me in the US, to ensure she is happy and adjusts well to the new culture and environment. Last, there is an outstanding on-line support group here in America, which is dedicated exclusively to Americans (also there are a few members from Australia) who are in the K-1 or K-3 or other visa processes with Chinese women. This site can provide you many of the tools and information to help you meet the challenges of a marriage to a woman from China. You can ‘lurk’ as a guest and observe for a few days/weeks and then join as a member, so you can ask questions, interact, and obtain tremendous support. There is no cost. I will add this info to my PM to you on the airline tickets. Again, best wishes for your success !! :) [/quote]
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