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[quote=LEONARDO,268801]A friend who has recently settled in Sweden taught me a lesson when we chatted on the internet: “In the West, marriage must be a very romantic thing. When a man and a woman live together, they don’t care about the so-called family backgrounds and material conditions. The two who are in love tried their best to savor the sweetness of love. If there is no romance between the lovers, westerners wouldn’t regard it as love.” Her words reminded me of the situation in China. In China, the situation is quite different from that in Sweden. Chinese children are repeatedly told by their parents that marriage is a very practical thing. Romance does not belong to marriage. For a long time, there has been a popular saying among Chinese average people: without love you can still get married. “Marry first, then get in love” is popular with the older generation of Chinese people. Their belief is marriage is a very practical (or very realistic) thing. Love can be cultivated gradually after two people get married. In the ancient society, marriage is so practical that a bride (the bride’s parents) only cares about the family background of her fiancé). It is very possible that a bride didn’t see her husband until she entered the bridal chamber. Now although time has changed, numerous people still viewed marriage as “being realistic and practical”. When a man is introduced to a girl, it is very possible that the first question the girl (more likely, the girls’ parents) asked is whether he has a house”. Certainly, it is a little bit extreme case, but it does happen in modern China where material affluence has been paid too much importance in marriage. Anyhow, how about the situation in the west? Although I have acquired some knowledge about the western culture, most of which are either from the textbooks or from Hollywood movies that lack enough accountability. I want to hear the voices and the real experiences of the real westerners in the real world. (It sounds a little bit awkward and redundant). What do you think of the issue? Is marriage a practical thing or a romantic thing?What are your views on “marrying first, then get in love”? Can love be cultivated after two people get married? [/quote]
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