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Thread: Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women?
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[quote=GUEST17142,386492]Your observations and comparisons are snapshots of different cultures. Sometimes you are comparing the wrong snapshots. The patriarchal traditions are in both the Chinese culture and the the European culture and earlier American culture in that the estate goes to the oldest son, who has the responsibility of the estate. The name "bastard" in the West and the son form the concubine in China do not have much rights. Here the woman is married to the husband's estate. Now things are also changing in China. The culture of working in a company/heirachical/operational environment is more so in China. There is no clear separation between ideas and operations. Words can be dangerous. You are in general polite, don't talk back to your boss, until are able to undermind him. May be what you call puppet and puppeteer. Lack of safety net for survivial, the human relationships are more important in China, between all people with to without sex. Many of the Chinese mannerism the West still needs to understand. The Chinese men and women are in general more polite, partly because of the gentleman's culture(Confucius) and partly because they in general want to understand what is behind, in a strategic calculation for actions. (Remember it is not right or wrong ideas, but consider the best time to take what actions.) Man inherits the family estate:the Chinese family is similar to the European family. Don't be fooled by the surface demeaner of the Chinese women or the Chinese men for that matter. Once you know them. They are calculative and when the time comes, are hard as nails. For the simple reason that mother have more interests looking over the education of the children, both Chinese and Western husbands have difficulties of carrying the culture of the father. Nowadays, the Chinese men are in general more serious, driven and take care of themselves...where flirting is close to talking nonsenses, to be avoided by a gentleman. I am sure this mannersm will change as they are more comfortable with this society. [/quote]
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