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Thread: How do you approach death in China?
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[quote=JABAROOTOO,288179]JSummer, Yes, death and grief are handled quite differently here and while our first response is to give comfort it may make your friend feel uneasy for you to offer in the same way you might to friends and family at home. I personally have had a couple of instances where I have watched those around me when someone died. One was at the time of the death of a colleague and I was not invited to any funeral or memorial and I'm not sure what happened after her death. I visited in hospital a few days before she died and openly wept in front of her and my colleagues as it was obvious the she was deteriorating and her death was considered immanent. While my colleagues were upset about her illness and subsequent death,, they said little and showed very little outward emotion. The other tragic instance was after our bus hit a young girl as she dashed across the highway. As her mother stood looking at her tangled body, she collapsed in grief and tears, but others, some possibly friends or family just stood by not touching her with any open or physical comfort. The bystanders and our fellow passengers expressed little, if any emotion and this seemed strange to my friend and I and two other foreigners on the bus By all means send a card with your condolences, but we need to be sensitive to cultural norms too. Perhaps some other local members can share a little more on this sensitive issue. It is important for us to understand these cultural differences.[/quote]
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