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[quote=AMPILOT,358507]Good advice all around. I probably ought to let it go, but, you know, that's not easy either. Its very rare in this life when you meet someone and you really, really connect in a deep, profound way. Alot of people never experience that. And I wonder if save for this, if I am not one of those people too. My spouse, God bless her, is good, but we don't have this kind of connection with the soul. I can see letting this Chinese girl go and 30 years from now when I am lyin' on my death bed in the hospital all hooked up to tubes, I will be wondering if I passed up on something I should not have. On the other hand - if this turns really serious, I can also see myself in that same hospital bed wondering what it is I had done to my family.. So I am thinking maybe I can chart the "be a good friend" course. If she was American or British or Canadian, I think I would know how to assess if that's possible. But Chinese, whoa, yes its the same game but not as we know the game. I have zero experience in extramarital affairs with women of my own culture, but I kinda think if I did, I could tell pretty quick if the lady was the kind of person to want things she could not have and the affair was headed for a ball of flame on the tarmac, or if she was just looking for someone with whom no commitment was possible and that suited her just fine, or what. NOw with this, how do the influences do parents, social aspirations, friends, the whole Confucian rice culture thing have on a Chinese girl who dates a foreign married man? Is the idea of just being friends even possible, or will relentless cultural forces drive her to seek a long term commitment with me? Hmmm, the more I think about it...[/quote]
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