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[quote=AMPILOT,358803]Well folks, I think this story may be coming to an end. She and I talked the other day and I think I know where she is going and what she wants now. In the past, she talked of wanting to travel the world, and work in different countries. That's still true, but it so happens that the country she wants to come and work in next is right here. Perhaps our relationship inspired that interest. Alas, she does not have a visa that would allow her to work here and those are so hard to get. Having gotten to know her, I am certain she has no intention of manipulating me or my feelings into giving up my family and marrying her so she can get that visa, she is not that kind of person, she is hard working, goal driven,and independent, and also very genuine and honest. At the same time, it is also the case that were I not so encumbered, we could have explored the possibility of how close we could become and marriage would have been a genuine and real possibility. Not that could not happen, but it would require each of us to take very specific steps that might actually hurt our relationship rather than assure it of its long term health I care for her alot, I really do, and it is clear now her happiness in life is best served by stepping back. I am very grateful for the chance to have met her. Like I said, the last thing in the world I expected was to meet a soul-mate from the other side of the world and in one so much younger, I wasn't looking for, didn't plan it, just happened, thats all. Its been a personal revelation to me that such a thing is even possible to me still, but more so is the discovery that my younger self is still here with all the hopes, desires and weaknesses he had, he is just masked and buried over with the accretions of years of responsibility. I guess I have a project now to figure out how to chip away all this stuff and bring him back. I sent her an email letting her know how I felt about her, why I do, how glad I was we met, how I care for her happiness and while I might actually be yearning for something else, I wish from her only friendship. Whew, that was painful. I wonder what her response will be, or if there will be one. I guess years from now , when I am indeed lying in a hospital bed, hooked up to tubes, waiting for the the beep beep to go beeeeeee..p, I will be thinking of both the times I had with my family and children, but also of a little doe-eyed beautiful lady in the islands, with whom things might have been, but nontheless should not have been, different. As for the rest of you, I am glad to have heard a few words with you all. I think from I will always regard people from China differently now, and look forward to adding some Chinese to the circle of people I call friends. If this story has an epilogue, I will let you know. In the meantime, the road trip suggested by Mr. Kinkade sounds pretty good. My sportster has wings though, but we are indeed going traveling.[/quote]
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