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Thread: For you westerners married to a Chinese for a long time
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[quote=GUEST12124,536758]-Living with my wife 2008 till now 2014 just over 6 years married 3 years -She moved form China to NZ and is a Guilin girl -17 years difference i'm 46 she's 29 now -We now have a 13 month old daughter ,I have a 13 year old daughter from a previous marriage who lives with us along with my widower father 70. -Parents are ok they lived with us for 6 months from just before/after baby was born -i speak hardly any Chinese and they speak hardly any english -She has permanent residence in NZ but does not want a NZ passport because we will probably move to China when I retire and would be a problem. -Relatives are ok as well and we have the range from retired farmer to established upper middle class . -Wife would move back to China tomorrow if I was prepared to go but would not want our daughter educated there at high school level as they push the kids to hard -Relationship has obviously changed over the years as she was just 22 when we met and I was almost 40 and you don't tend to change much when you get to that age .We argue sometimes but what married couple doesn't and I would say that the relationship has matured but is pretty much the same as before ie I'm happy with US . We fit each other pretty well which I think is probably the key thing with us . -Her parents are moving to NZ and we have sponsored them for residence because we need help with the daycare(my dad is 70 and not in good health-smoker so cannot help full time with this),saves us 1250 a month a third of my salary. Plus they get to spend a lot of time with only child and only grandchild so win win . They have a pretty good life in China not wealthy but middle of the road . -I am middle income for my country not wealthy -She was an EA in China with an economics degree but worked in a supermarket here and did volunteer work for 2 years total before getting a job in a bank and works 35 hrs a week So basically luck of the draw as I am just your average guy anyway, have tried to build a picture for you of my situation . Cultural differences of course but nothing really important or conflicting but I suppose that depends on your viewpoint .[/quote]
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