City Guide
Answers
Login
Home
/
Community
/
Forums
/ Post a Reply
Post a Reply
Thread: Helping a "little empress"
Title:
(100 characters at most)
Content: ( 3,000 characters at most, please )
You can add emoticons below to your post by clicking them.
[quote=GRIZ326,382325]My step-daughter was 18 when she came to the USA and I married her mother. She is a Chinese girl and not yet very "Americanized." Going to university in the USA is very costly - even when going to a university in your home state. Sending our daughter to university is depleting all of our savings because the economic problems in the USA hit me very, very hard. The savings were originally intended for my retirement...when I got married - our retirement; but my wife would have been (rightfully) unhappy had I refused to educate our daughter...so our money is all earmarked for our daughter now. That is the sacrifice my wife and I are making and there seems to be very little appreciation of what we are giving her. Most recently, because of the inappropriate behavior of her dormitory roommates, we had to get her a private dorm room. We sent her a small refrigerator and microwave oven to make her room a little more comfortable. This, of course, costs additional money. She allowed these amenities to sit in the dormitory office for more than a week and complained that she did not have them. I had to arrange to get them from the office to her dormitory room; in my opinion, this was a trivial matter that she should have and could have taken care of herself. For the upcoming Thanksgiving holidays, I had to get her bus ticket and arranged for transportation to and from the university to the bus station. She was too busy to do this for herself. ...now in her defense, there is a part of me that believes this could be a frightened child trying to make her way in a strange country...but it is just as likely that she is the empress who expects to be taken care of and does not lift a finger to help herself...which is a behavior I have seen at home in the past year. She also displays very little consideration for the two American girls who befriended her when she first arrived: they got her to join school groups, participate in music programs, took her to their families' holiday gatherings and helped her socialize with young people her own age rather than sit in her room with the door closed. She refused to attend a dramatic performance featuring one her helpful friends as a show of support; my wife and I attended without her. My wife was very disappointed in her daughter. All of our adult friends have more colorful ways to describe this girl's behavior than I have expressed here; they will comment on her behavior to me, but spare my wife the embarrassment of their reaction to our daughter. My wife recognizes our daughter's shortcomings and has asked me to help her. Were she still a child, this might be an easier matter, but as a young adult it is a "tough nut to crack." Does this answer your question, Marrie?[/quote]
characters left
Name:
Get a new code