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Thread: Help....American man just engaged to Chinese woman here in USA on work visa
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[quote=WMILLETTE,417282]Yes.... My text is not accurate...I've been talking baby talk to my woman so long now im talking like it to everyone.... If we were corresponding in an official man nor I might be more careful on how and what I say however I am testing when and where I can and in short time, only to see what is said and to vent my thoughts .... No the ring on my finger is just a ring no wedding rings yet, yes she works in the massage parlor, she has no special skills that I am aware of. Yesterday night she told me something sad....she said when she was in china everyday was happy and she wishes she didn't come to america...I asked why she don't just go back she said because owes money now and no money to go back.......worries me that she is not happy here. As for the humorous coments I hold no grudges as long as you don't try to dishonor either of us as that would be crossing a line. I believe we are two honorable people and yes I am on here because I'm trying to be extra cautious in this first cross cultural endeavor... I have never visited a massage parlor before and to this day she has never given me a massage....so it's just where she makes money to pay her loan off. I had another talk about money last night.....you can see the fire in her is starting to get lower, as she is realizing america is not as great as she was told... How can she judge when all she knows is sleep,work sleep.....no time to travel and relax. She wants her children to come here...after we marry it's 12 months for green card with limitation.....how long till she could get her kids here? It's 3years for her to get green card alone...so kids? I would have to say why anyone would go through so much to be with another fascinates me...I have never given a woman this much of my feelings time and money..... If it were not to work out I must say I am considering a move to china to search and work....but maybe china is wrong seems the women there are not western enough to be compatable . Also I want to mention she did say to me last night......her friends don't mind her marrying a white guy infect it is seen as a status symbol to her.. Guys if you met her face to face you wouldn't be saying what you say, so please stop. This is a real life situation and if you really like to help guide me in the direction I wish to go......I am marrying her so just give me advice on how to make it work and how to get her depression less. Thank you and to show I'm sincere anyone is welcome to call me and we can chat....239 258-9400 Yes I'm very laid back and yes retirement has changed me...you will find I'm very spiritual and very wise but one cannot see the fault in one self thus why I contact the forum.....[/quote]
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