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Thread: Help....American man just engaged to Chinese woman here in USA on work visa
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[quote=GUEST01189,422346]When I read your writing, it sounds like she is the one writing this - like English is a second language. Are you originally from the US? Anyway, if you spend so much time researching traditional Chinese women, culture, etc, you should actually spend that time learning Chinese - whether she speaks Mandarin or Cantonese. Then you would really know the truth. Chinese women, traditional or not, are very secretive but has no relevance on being affectionate or not, we are not talking about the 1800's or feet bound women like my grandmother was...those women aren't around much anymore. My mom's family are from China, Beijing. 7 aunts married Asian men, but who can't speak Chinese. My mother is the only one who married a white guy. Funny thing is, he could understand Chinese and she never hid anything from him...if aunts spoke Chinese around him, he never let on that he understood and whatever he didn't, my mother would tell him. Aunts spoke Chinese to each other and the children, the men were always kept on the outside, never knowing everything of what was going on. I'm not saying ALL Chinese people are like this, but usually for women who grew up with a struggling or difficult past, tend to come to America to make a better life for themselves AND their children. If you can provide a decent life, she could truly be in love. Also she isn't a naive teenager, she is a woman with married life experience. 1) Exactly what kind of massage place is this - happy ending kind? 2) The sex comment is weird but also understand that Asian people have stereotypes about American men too. Maybe she thinks you want sex all the time and she is laying the ground rules. But, when I first read it, it almost kind of sounded contractual by how you said it. 3) If you have all this doubt and suspicion, you already know what your answer is...growing up in a Chinese household, in what I would consider traditional, affection is NOT withheld ... unless it doesn't exist in the first place![/quote]
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