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[quote=GUEST39611,66018]I live in Canada and have been involved in a long-distance relationship with a Chinese woman for about 7 months. I have also travelled to China during this time to meet with her. My girlfriend's family lives in a very small farming village, although she herself moved to Shenzhen for work several years ago. Recently, we have begun talking about marriage and she raised the issue of the bride price. I wasn't too surprised because I have heard that this tradition is still common, especially amongst rural families. But what shocked me was the amount her family requested. And I mean really SHOCKED!! Her father has said the bride price would be $200,000 Canadian dollars. This equals more than 1.26 million RMB! And of course, in addition to this, I'm expected to purchase a house before the marriage (I currently rent a condo, so presumably that's not sufficient). I don't think my girlfriend is a scammer. She's just very naive and accepts everything her parents and elders say without question. But her parents on the other hand, seem to be making a greedy cash-grab. My girlfriend explained that the main reason for the bride price is because, as the eldest daughter, she is responsible for caring for her parents. And if I take her to another country, she won't be there to help them during any crisis or illness that may occur. So the bride price is supposed to provide her family with the financial means to get through difficult times without the presence of their daughter. Okay, I can appreciate all this. But $200,000??? What kind of crisis are they preparing for? An asteroid hitting their farm?? To me, this figure just seems obscene. And it would also effectively end our relationship because I don't have the means to pay it, and even if I did, I still wouldn't pay it because I consider this demand to be ridiculous. Can anyone here tell me how much a typical bride price is? And am I correct in thinking that my girlfriend's parents' request is absurd?[/quote]
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