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[quote=GUEST27173,599651]My son lived in China for 4 years.Married a Chinese woman and they had a little girl. Asked if I would sponsor her coming to US.Lived with me for 2 years. Definitely learned Chinese culture. Things you need to know:
1)Chinese culture is ALL about "saving face". Things we would deem immoral are okay in Chinese culture as long as it means you will "save face". Whatever it takes to "save face" is justified. Discovered after the fact several instances where I, AND my son, had been lied to so she could "save face". Saving face is very much kept alive with her now long distance relationship with friends and family left in China. (Examples below)
2)There is a fascination with high end women's hand bags. Status symbol. Who would have thought? 1st shopping trip was to purchase a $4000 Chanel bag. Yes, $4000! I didn't even know such a thing existed. While they are frugal and all about saving, there was no limit when it came to this purchase. And of course, the pictures went home to China like hot cakes. Diapers for child became non-essential.  
3) Be prepared grandmothers, that you will be expected to be the full time caregiver for the child. Chinese grandmothers do child the rearing. In my home I live with and care for my 37 year old adult disabled daughter, and there was NO consideration that I had my hands full, not to mention that in 2 yrs I will be 70. Chinese mom would sit in the upstairs bedroom with the door closed and spend her day on Chinese version of Facebook, taking a nap every afternoon. By default the child became MY responsibility. When I mentioned the strain it was putting on me, my son defended her culture. I refused to comply. 2 yr old child became hungry. Crying for food, Chinese mom came downstairs, threw leftover french fries on table.Left child in booster seat. Huffed and stomped back upstairs.Breakfast. Chinese mom later complained to hubby that she "felt like a nanny".
3)There is an apathy about life that is hard to explain. Look at the you-tube video about the toddler who is run over by a truck in China. That says it all.Things that we would respond to merely with a sense of kindness and caring for another human being  are met with completely apathy.Eyes open but nobody home.
4) Chinese cannot line up. Her rudeness exposed at DMV! 
5)Chinese eat with mouths open. Louder smacking, the better.
6)Burping is highly valued, AND competitive!Longest, loudest, most grotesque burp ever heard came from son's little petite Chinese wife. Look of delight on her face as she waited for someone to respond in kind around our Thanksgiving table. Priceless!!! 
7)Chinese are MASTERS at the silent treatment AND you will NEVER know what you did to offend.
8)Can never EVER be direct with the Chinese. Son taught me how to skillfully beat around the bush.
9)Chinese do not understand dogs as pets. Look online at China's Yulin dog meat festival. 
10)#1 objective, get friends/family here from China. She's trying to connect friends w my other single sons.
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