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[quote=AZIZAH,365664]Dear Maymay
It's very interesting to read your thoughts.  Well I'm a Chinese too, from an Ong family.  I used to ask myself the same question, what if my husband marries a new one?  It's too complicated to think and share a husband, isn't it?  Well, how many Indonesian or Malaysian Muslims have 2, 3 or 4 wives?  Until today, my husband remains with one wife, that is me.  Marrying more than one wife, today, I think it's not helping any but for lusts, thus those who are marrying for lusts have done injustice to Islam.  Why think of divorce when we want a marriage?  We should strive more to keep our marriage, and i never think of divorce at all.  Divorce is a sin?  Divorce to me is the last path one takes in marriage if there is no other remedy and way.  Many celebrities got divorced in the west, but there are no hues and cries saying they are sinners.  A bigamy is dangerous but living with concubines and mistresses is OK I guess... it'a really a strange thought.

I don't know about Indonesian Muslims, but there are many schools of thoughts.  My husband allows me to keep dogs, in fact in the Qur'an (al-Maidah 5:3) allows Muslims to use dogs for hunting.  A great sage of Islam, named Abu ]Hanifah (d. 150H) argued, if a dog is najis, then why it is allowed for hunting and if the prey died in the mouth of the dog it is allowed to eat?  Even the late mufti of Terengganu (one of the states in Malaysia), Syed Yusuf Ali al-Zawawi, according to my husband, kept dogs as pets.   There is non in the Qur'an says that the dog is najis, and not even in the hadith.  True, it was mentioned about when the dog licks the water... and that according to Abu Hanifah was during rabies epidemic where dogs were killed.  Some Muslims do not understand their own religion, and when I asked them, they just said so and so have said this, and it is haram, and they never brought forth good arguments from their main two sources of reference, the Qur'an and the authpritative Prophetic Traditions.  Even if a dog is filth or najis, it is not right to throw stones, it is also a God's creation.  I used to read the Sahih of al-Bukhari with my husband, about a prostitute that will be rewarded with the garden of paradise because she fed a thisrty dog water from her shoes.

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