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[quote=GUESTHKUNDERGRAD,383082]This topic is seldom raised but also has been discussed so much that I don't find it new.

Well, the shy-Chinese-guy syndrome looks like a dichotomy between them and western guys,
but I think this doesn't make sense.
On a cross-cultural scale, Chinese guys look more shy than western counterparts, I think,
because they are more reserved, not inherently shy (or to be exact love-shy, social inhibition with girls).
If you don't know the Chinese well, it's just an illusion that Chinese guys are nice AND shy.

I know nice and shy usually go together, but you never know about their wisdom, cunning, etc, until you know them.
In reality, if I (Chinese guy) go ask every guy friend I know,
in fact there's not a single one of us who IS shy, but rather

1) we find it hard to communicate because of cultural and language problems.
we seldom see anyone learning Chinese. I know there are now millions of them,
but there are very few who can talk naturally the whole day with us Chinese guys.
The best learners I've seen are mostly professionals/have stayed in my country for multiple years, etc.
I won't expect a young girl who can do this at all.
Chinese guys would have far more luck if they all spoke English and English only.
2) many of us are shallow, as shallow as many non-Chinese guys, and we value look.
Many western girls fail miserably because of their look only compared to chinese girls.
If you can date somebody who looks far more feminine, has smooth and fair skin,
only minus colorful hair and colorful eyes...
then what's the point of learning English hard and go for white/black chicks instead?

One traditional criterion is having fair skin. white chicks are of course fair, but
usually they just don't look as delicate as their vicious chinese competitors.

I don't have to mention money factor, economy factor, etc.
Chinese guys in general just don't even have overriding reasons to go for (particularly) white chicks,
even though white chicks (the blond protoype, not black-haired or some others) are the most popular...[/quote]

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