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[quote=FURIOUS,513279]Sorry to bump an old thread.  I was googling for gift ideas for my Chinese girlfriend and came across this thread/site.  I'd like to share and maybe get feedback about my relationship with my Chinese gf.

For some background, she's 33 (I'm white American male - 34), been in the US for 10 years.  She came over as a student, quickly found her niche after college and is now rich by helping students from China connect with a couple colleges around Chicago...as well as a few other business ventures and investments.  I'm a social worker, so obviously I don't make much money.

It took 3 or 4 months before she would even call this a "relationship."  She was still dating around before then and it frustrated me b/c I took my profile down after our 3rd date and focused on her.  Eventually I said enough is enough, we're either serious or I will date other girls, she then was willing to call it an exclusive relationship.  Her parents were here for 2 of those months and really seemed to like me despite us not being able to talk much.

She's ALL about business and money.  She's really been trying to help me become more successful, but it has bothered me when she doesn't seem to fully accept me for who I am now.  Most women respect and admire the work I do with the disabled.  She respects it, but wants me to strive to earn more.  She has expressed concern over our difference in income, but says she will do everything to make this work.

She's very open talking about sex.  She said that she never talked like this with her exes.  She said two of her exes had issues with erectile dysfunction, and when they were getting erections the sex was painful and she didn't enjoy it.  We however, have great sex.  Not bragging honestly, but I do have an above average size...so I'm surprised it doesn't hurt her.  She clearly enjoys our sex, and said being excited (wet) makes it feel good.

Anyway...I don't really believe that she's only been like this with me.  I don't know why she would say this to me b/c I told her I wouldn't care if she was "freaky" with her exes.  As long as it's just with me now.

She says she's traditional in the fact that the man is the man. He pays for everything, makes the plans, etc...  So I pay for EVERYTHING.  She has never offered to pay for a meal, despite the fact she earns 20x what I do.  I'm ok with this tho.  
She also wants to travel the world, which she's expressed as a concern with my income. She wants to travel WITH me...but I can't afford to at this point.

So she lives in the US, has her green card & earns more than me...so I'm pretty sure she really likes me for me.  She's even begun saying that she loves me recently.

I feel like maybe I was more of a boy-toy initially and then she fell for me and is stuck.  I don't see myself as super smart and don't earn 100k+ like her exes did, but I stay fit and she may be primarily physically attracted to me.

Gosh this is long, I just don't know if this is going to work in the long run.[/quote]

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