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| Jan 11, 2006 01:57 | #11   |
 | This is important discussion. I pick some words from other thread: "....SINGLE middle aged teacher...(ENGLISH)...I want a beautiful young single chinese girl who can speak a little english..." says "Pythag" Isn't this the basic situatation, talking about arranged marriages? Older man with some money and position is looking for a young&beatufil girl with limited skills and/or money. Is one really looking for somebody to live with as equal comrades? Or looking for maid&mistress so far as younger&more beautiful choice appears? What is marriage at all? Should woman be a slave of her husband? What I like to say: don't be naive. Never believe anything published in internet :) . I know it is possible to find good friends, even wife/husband by internet. Perhaps even by marriage agency. But risks are also high. So, be careful out there... Says Jukka who knows a sad story... |
| Dec 7, 2007 22:57 | #12 |
| GUESTMICHAEL | Dear Sir , I'm an English/ French teacher in Nanning and i can help ladies to learn the languages . This will be an oppornunity for them to have a better contact with a future husband in USA,England,Ireland,France,and so on. I have two "mother's languages : My father is French and my mother Irish, My email: yahoo.com|mi_xiao |
| Dec 8, 2007 23:04 | #13 |
| GUEST93227 | My comment would be, "yeah, so?" I think it says more about the man than the woman. Of course a woman from a poor country--whether it's Mexico, Ukraine, China, or whatever--would want to marry someone for financial security. Why is this surprising? What about the man? Do you really buy that rationalizing BS they tell themselves? It takes a special kind of loser to have to go to a third world country to get a wife, that's for sure. |
| Dec 8, 2007 23:46 | #14 |
| Back to the original point and the title of the thread. many marriages are stil ararnged, but maybe less formally in the past. I know one girl who is being forced to marry a man she totally dislikes and so far has refused to hold his hand. She said she must do it because her family want it, she cannot hurt them. She is very unhappy, but says she can divorce him as that will be eaiser (I wonder). Many marry for wealth or poistion - which may be to a Chinese or a foreigner - inthe hope of a better life. Yes poverty, or a desire to achieve better even though not in poverty is the issue. BUT WAIT. This has been true of just about every culture thathas ever existed. Marriage has always been about passing on ones genes and then economics. It is only in modern times that this strange concept of love has come to dominate. In my view, marry for any reason you like, just don't lie to you future partner, be honest and if you understand one another GO FOR IT. (Old man wants a 'trophy wife', girl wants money... or any reasons you care to think of ....it's up to them). |
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