Lonely hearts under pressure

Lonely hearts under pressure
Feb 26, 2007 20:04
MAY001 Points: Join Date: Sep 28, 2005 Status: offline	I read this story in China Daily and found it's very interesting and realistic. Chinese traditional is somewhat pressure to many youth. ^o^ Story: For China's lonely hearts, Spring Festival can be a psychological nightmare. Xi Anjie, an office worker in Shanghai, is among those singles who takes a bashing each year from relatives concerned by their marital status. Unable to find a girlfriend to parade in front of his matchmaking-obsessed relatives, Xi, 35, elected to stay at home after a brief celebration with his parents for this week-long holiday. Others have devised more elaborate ways around the problem. Last month, a Beijing University student was offering 1,000 yuan ($125) to potential "girlfriends" if they would rent themselves to him for 10 days during Spring Festival to impress his parents. Wang Jisheng, a professor with the Psychology Institution of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, said that China's singles should be careful not to confuse filial piety with lies and deception. However, a domestic website suggests that these days more people are finding it difficult to meet a partner. Xici.net has already been flooded by over 100 lonely hearts ads since the start of the lunar new year. Most of the marriage seekers are ladies aged between 24 and 30.

Feb 26, 2007 20:04

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I read this story in China Daily and found it's very interesting and realistic. Chinese traditional is somewhat pressure to many youth. ^o^

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For China's lonely hearts, Spring Festival can be a psychological nightmare.

Xi Anjie, an office worker in Shanghai, is among those singles who takes a bashing each year from relatives concerned by their marital status.

Unable to find a girlfriend to parade in front of his matchmaking-obsessed relatives, Xi, 35, elected to stay at home after a brief celebration with his parents for this week-long holiday.

Others have devised more elaborate ways around the problem.

Last month, a Beijing University student was offering 1,000 yuan ($125) to potential "girlfriends" if they would rent themselves to him for 10 days during Spring Festival to impress his parents.

Wang Jisheng, a professor with the Psychology Institution of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, said that China's singles should be careful not to confuse filial piety with lies and deception.

However, a domestic website suggests that these days more people are finding it difficult to meet a partner.

Xici.net has already been flooded by over 100 lonely hearts ads since the start of the lunar new year. Most of the marriage seekers are ladies aged between 24 and 30.

Feb 27, 2007 03:44	#1
MIRANDAZHAO Points: Join Date: Feb 7, 2007 Status: Offline	Ha, interesting. Tradition must change!

Mar 1, 2007 01:35

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I think one problem is that some aspects of culture change faster than others. In this case some young people have acquired new ideas and hope about love and marriage and are no longer willing to have parents push partners onto them. Unfortunately, from what my friends tell me and what I have seen, there are not enough places and situations where young people can meet in a relaxed way. If they do meet someone special they will not take him/her home because of the parental pressure. The parents assume that a girl/boy friend means they are planning to marry, whereas they might not be.

Compared with western countries there are more shy young people who find it hard to make an approach to someone they like, or might like. There are fewer older people to lead the way, it is all so new, they have to learn for themselves.

Not that love, romance and marriage are always that easy for any of us !!

Mar 27, 2007 16:29	#3
SANYACHINA Points: Join Date: Mar 26, 2007 Status: Offline	"For China's lonely hearts, Spring Festival can be a psychological nightmare." The same in the West countries on the St. Valentine's day...

Mar 29, 2007 00:35	#4
LIONPOWER Points: Join Date: Dec 11, 2006 Status: Offline	Lonely heart is better than burning heart

Mar 29, 2007 16:02	#5
SANYACHINA Points: Join Date: Mar 26, 2007 Status: Offline	Sure, but they don't know it :)

Mar 29, 2007 22:36	#6
LIONPOWER Points: Join Date: Dec 11, 2006 Status: Offline	Open a thread on it

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