Why do they marry so hurriedly?

Why do they marry so hurriedly?
Apr 12, 2007 19:38
LEOPOLD219 Points: Join Date: Feb 7, 2007 Status: offline	As we all know, a marriage should base on the economical foundation. As long as the couple is economically independent, they will be able to live a happy life after they marry. However, a growing number of young city dwellers, most of whom are college graduates, choose to get married soon after the graduation. Some of these couples are not financially independent and have to partly rely on their parents. Some parents take too much care of their children’s life that they even do housework for them. Experts say that getting married soon after graduation will probably cause economical problems and psychological problems as well. Young couples will easily underestimate the problems lying ahead of them. In the long term, the quality of marriage will be damaged.

Apr 12, 2007 19:38

LEOPOLD219
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As we all know, a marriage should base on the economical foundation. As long as the couple is economically independent, they will be able to live a happy life after they marry.
However, a growing number of young city dwellers, most of whom are college graduates, choose to get married soon after the graduation. Some of these couples are not financially independent and have to partly rely on their parents. Some parents take too much care of their children’s life that they even do housework for them.
Experts say that getting married soon after graduation will probably cause economical problems and psychological problems as well. Young couples will easily underestimate the problems lying ahead of them. In the long term, the quality of marriage will be damaged.

Apr 12, 2007 20:54

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Thanks Leo,
Your post have a good light. Yes your thinkings are OK but there many alternatives.
First we should think whether they are boy or girl. I appreciate girls to marry after graduation.
For the boys, (my opinion) looks every think before marry as you mentioned, cause till Chinese family economically Man dependent.

Many valuable points to write on the issue, proceeding to Canton Fair, so time very short. Wish to write later.

Apr 12, 2007 21:02	#2
CONNY129 Points: Join Date: May 25, 2005 Status: Offline	Another problem is "闪婚"(shan3 hun1) which means quickly get in and out of marriage.Most of them are young adults born after 1980,they get married quickly even they only know each other one month or two (at present the record is the couple get married after seven hours they got to know).

Apr 13, 2007 03:49	#3
CAOJUAN157 Points: Join Date: Mar 13, 2007 Status: Offline	oh, CRAZY!

Apr 13, 2007 17:12	#4
JANFRISK Points: Join Date: Mar 29, 2007 Status: Offline	why marry in such a hurry? why wait not to hurry? why not wait, for love? why love to hurry? why not love to hurry love? why not wait, and hurry later? later, might be too late, so now is for life and love So, why not trust your heart?

Apr 14, 2007 18:22	#5
APAULT Points: Join Date: Mar 11, 2006 Status: Offline	Perhaps it's to do with hormones! If sex before marriage is frowned upon, people will marry hurriedly.

Apr 14, 2007 21:46

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yes, APAULT is right too -- that must have been more common in his generation! In some countries, getting married quickly is just part of the culture. In Korea, when people get to marrying age (27-30) it's not uncommon for a couple to get married after dating for six months. They move FAST. I was teaching a young couple (two doctors), and the male doctor asked his girlfriend's parents for permission to marry her the SECOND week they were dating. It's really strange by Western standards, but normal for them... I guess over there if you're not married by 30, people think you're really weird or something and no one wants to be left out.

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