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|Oct 27, 2007 06:21|
I'm a chinese man at my age of 23 ! i think i have the right to post my views of the chinese men!
Answer 1:most of the chinese men treat their wives as their family member , she should keep the family and bore kids, and share family's responsibilites. And only the lovebroken(or the coulpes work in different city) couples are seprate.
Answer 2:chinese men will share everything with his wife, money, love , goals, etc. but men usually keep a small amount of money as his own to treat friends ,help relatives.
Answer 3: before make a very important decision, chinese men usually ask for wife's suggestions , and wife's suggestions are very important and influsive,
Answer 4: In china, men have to work hard to keep the family , so they don't have much attention and time to create romanticism or funs.
Answer 5: only tiny part of chinese men use marriage as a way of making money , acquiring property or foundation.
Answer 6 : I can not promise you that your husband will not find love and romance outside of marriage
|Oct 29, 2007 10:45|
|I was really hoping more women would comment on this. Perhaps the girls are afraid to let the guys see their proprietary feminine strategic intelligence. ;-)|
|Oct 29, 2007 12:29|
|GUEST65158||Yes, I was hoping to get answers from men and women...women who have known and been intimate with Chinese men and Chinese men who would like to speak for themselves.|
|Oct 29, 2007 20:30|
|My answers: |
The husband and the wife could be best friends. But to my understanding, their relationship is more than friends. Perhaps, soulmate is the best word. What does 'separate' mean here? I guess that 'independent' is more suitable. In traditional families, women are dependent.However, they have become more indepedent than before.
He is not enmeshed in the marriage. Personally, I think that the husband will be happy to share whatever you have mentioned since they are a couple.
At least for me, I am happy to ask help from my wife. Just as TUNGSHUNGHWA said, before making important decision, they usually ask his wife's opinion.
What TUNGSHUNGHWA said is true. But I think that romanticism, love and passion etc are very important to manage a happy marriage.
For me, if I do not love my wife, I would not get married with her. Some men just take advantage of marriage to gain property or high social positions.
Why do they find love outside of marriage? I guess that he does not have a happy marriage and the relationship between him and her is not good so he is fed up with it.
|Oct 22, 2008 15:10|
|I will throw in an observation about my wife's elder brother and his wife. |
In the times that I have been with them, they are outwardly very reserved in their behavior; almost like business partners. To an American's eyes they were not cold toward each other, but it would be hard to imagine them "rollin' like thunder under the covers" (to quote the lyrics of an old rock 'n roll song).
I would certainly like to see further discussion of this issue because it is useful for me in understanding the expectations my wife may have.
|Oct 23, 2008 03:03|
|This topic came up on my last visit to China in discussion with a group of (female) Chinese friends. Generally it seems that Chinese men do not show affection to their wives in the same way a western man might. The reasons suggested were tradition, shyness and "macho" (to show weakness). The ladies accepted this but did admit that they would like more romance and affection in their relationship. Western influence seems to be creeping in here. This lack of showing affection certainly didn't mean that the men didn't love their partners, they simply don't consider it necessary. Although none of the ladies admitted to being beaten by their men, they all knew someone who did get beaten.|
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