| Whats the easiest way to find out if a Chinese girl is single? | |
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| Jan 16, 2008 03:34 |   |
| guest03152 | It is really hard to find out if a Chinese girl is single or not?. I have an interest in this Chinese girl, its funny because she speaks a different Cantonese than I do and so she speaks broken English with me. I want to find out whether she is married or not or has a boy friend but it is so hard because if she was married, she is pretty old school because she doesn't wear a ring. Is it rude to ask a Chinese girl whether she is single? I do want to find out but I don't really want to show my intentions because if she does have a boyfriend, I don't want to throw hands with him. |
| Jan 16, 2008 08:10 | #1 |
 | You should ask her her. 0. She has been chatting with you so you have been introduced so ask her. My students at college regularly ask me persoanl questions. 1. If she is likes you she won't be upset, if she doesn't like you, it is irrelevant whether she likes you or not!! 2. Whether she has a boyfriend or not is totally irrelevant. If she has and it is serious she will tell you And you will say, 'Ah I have missed my chance then, my life is ruined but I won't cry!' She will then reply in a way which will either give you a chance to keep going or not...and you move on to the next chick. 3. IF she provides you with an opening, you ask her out to dinner, you do NOT wait for another occasion. Handling her potentially ex-boyfriend is her problem not yours. 4 Turn the language difficulty to your advantage, you have to be closer, you need more time together, it creates laughter. (Please remember that many of the best sports coaches were not top sportsman themselves.. I do not accept the label 'colour wolf' though I wish it applied!!) Guest: GO FOR IT! ..you have nothing to lose but your uncertainty! |
| Jan 16, 2008 10:33 | #2 |
| ...some how Cyrano de Bergerac keeps coming into my mind, Paul.... ;-) |
| Jan 16, 2008 18:58 | #3 |
| “If she is likes you she won't be upset, if she doesn't like you, it is irrelevant whether she likes you or not!!” LOL! I like the way you think, Paul. Very radical! Though I thought you meant, if she doesn’t like you, it is irrelevant whether she gets upset or not. ^_^ I agree. The easiest way to know is to ask. |
| Jan 16, 2008 19:18 | #4 |
| Agree! The easiest way is to ask. But you need some techniques. Otherwise, she will get upset. You needn't ask her directly. Just find her closest friend and have a dinner with her or 'bribe' her in other ways. While chatting with her friend, you raise your question and she will give you the answer. Quote: IF she provides you with an opening, you ask her out to dinner, you do NOT wait for another occasion. Handling her potentially ex-boyfriend is her problem not yours. Be careful! Some girls sit on two chairs and you are just a candidate for her. |
| Jan 16, 2008 21:28 | #5 |
| Just ask!! |
| Jan 17, 2008 19:27 | #6 |
| Thanks Gottabee, when will Microsoft include a logic checker in their software?? No Jimmy, no! No need to be indirect...it is normal for boy to want girl and girl to want boy! The 'rules' in China are that the bloke is supposed to ask the chick...tough, but if he can't learn to do that, he is not bf material, he is weak! Sure bribe her, a rose, or something. I hate this but IT WORKS. It is a percentage game. If I may tell a story which is said to be true, based on a well known coastal holiday resort not so far from Jabarootoo's home. I will change the dialog just a little so as to be polite. A couple of blokes were sitting at a pavement table drinking a beer (or two) watching the chicks go by. When they saw one they liked one would ask: 'Will you come back to bed with me?' (That is where I changed the words!). It is reported that some girls were abusive, some ignored them, but about 1% said OK! Now I am not suggesting this for everyone, or for China, and especially not for the situation this young man describes, but it illustrates the points that you can be bold, shouldn't be afraid to be rejected, and if one says 'no' there is always another. Sure at the moment he is hot for this one chick, but if she says 'no' he'll get over it! We have some other (normal) sayings: If you ask you won't die wondering'. Nothing ventured, nothing gained'. Faint heart never won fair lady Fortune favours the brave Oh, and I wish someone had taught me all this when I was younger! |
| Jan 17, 2008 19:44 | #7 |
| There’s the father of TCG! LOL! There was a time when there were a lot of talks about women not being direct. However, it seems that many men can’t be direct either. ^_^ |
| Jan 17, 2008 20:34 | #8 |
| Quote: A couple of blokes were sitting at a pavement table drinking a beer (or two) watching the chicks go by. When they saw one they liked one would ask: 'Will you come back to bed with me?' (That is where I changed the words!). Paul, if you say it to a Chinese woman, I guess that you will get a slap from her. BTW, I want to know you change that sentence to what. Perhaps, "You are very beautiful. Would you like some beer or juice with me?" is better. "The 'rules' in China are that the bloke is supposed to ask the chick...tough, but if he can't learn to do that, he is not bf material, he is weak! Sure bribe her, a rose, or something. I hate this but IT WORKS. " Yes, Paul, it works well. No wonder the Valentine's Day is so popular in China. Girls can get roses and chocolate. |
| Jan 18, 2008 18:16 | #9 |
| GUEST80190 | So it is not the culture with china that you ask the parents first?what about if they already live here and have a buisness.The woman i really like is very hard working all the time.i watch her when i order the food she is always working.But i also know in china alot of woman wont look you in the eyes so i dont know if she is interested or not.But she is always polite and beautiful. |
| Jan 18, 2008 19:58 | #10 |
| “Thanks Gottabee, when will Microsoft include a logic checker in their software??” Paul, when I become the CEO of Microsoft, which means, not gonna happen! LOL! “…if you say it to a Chinese woman, I guess that you will get a slap from her.” If you do that in the West, you’ll get slapped too. A slap of sexual harassment lawsuit that’s going to make a lot of marks, not just on your cheek. Guest, it doesn’t have to be complicated. Just ask “Are you single?” or “Do you have a boyfriend?” If you’ve been talking to her for some time, I’m sure she won’t mind. ^_^ No guts, no glory.~ |
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