Help! Relationships & Hong Kong ID Card System

Help! Relationships & Hong Kong ID Card System
Feb 18, 2008 13:54
MISSANONYMOUS Points: Join Date: Feb 18, 2008 Status: offline	Hello everyone. I need advice and help. I'm in a bad situation at home and I don't know what to do. I live in the UK but my parents are Chinese and come from Hong Kong. I've very recently had an argument with them. I also have an English boyfriend who they have a very hard time accepting. I'm 17 and my boyfriend's 20. After the argument with my parents I don't feel like I can trust them nor do I feel safe with them. I can't talk to them, because when I do they just back-stab me and talk very badly about me behind my back (I over hear them talking all the time) or tell me to shut-up or say it's all my fault anyway or say that I'm speaking like this because I've had too much influence from the English and generally being unreasonable. I'm currently in college full time and I only go home for sleeping. I constantly feel sad and feel a lot of anxiety. The only person who I can really rely on and feel safe with is my boyfriend. He's helped me through arguing with my parents. And being honest, I don't want to be away from him to go to Hong Kong to re-new my ID card. My parents tell me that I can't bring him to Hong Kong with me, but I see no reason why not? I'm really unfamiliar with how the re-newing of an ID card works when you turn 18, but I'm sure my boyfriend would be able to access all the areas where the renewals take place am I right? If not please educate me. My parents will not approve of taking my boyfriend and I really don't want to go without him, because of my parents. And I also don't know how to resolve this? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance! -MissAnonymous

Feb 18, 2008 13:54

MISSANONYMOUS
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Hello everyone. I need advice and help. I'm in a bad situation at home and I don't know what to do.

I live in the UK but my parents are Chinese and come from Hong Kong. I've very recently had an argument with them. I also have an English boyfriend who they have a very hard time accepting. I'm 17 and my boyfriend's 20.

After the argument with my parents I don't feel like I can trust them nor do I feel safe with them. I can't talk to them, because when I do they just back-stab me and talk very badly about me behind my back (I over hear them talking all the time) or tell me to shut-up or say it's all my fault anyway or say that I'm speaking like this because I've had too much influence from the English and generally being unreasonable. I'm currently in college full time and I only go home for sleeping. I constantly feel sad and feel a lot of anxiety. The only person who I can really rely on and feel safe with is my boyfriend. He's helped me through arguing with my parents. And being honest, I don't want to be away from him to go to Hong Kong to re-new my ID card. My parents tell me that I can't bring him to Hong Kong with me, but I see no reason why not?

I'm really unfamiliar with how the re-newing of an ID card works when you turn 18, but I'm sure my boyfriend would be able to access all the areas where the renewals take place am I right? If not please educate me.

My parents will not approve of taking my boyfriend and I really don't want to go without him, because of my parents. And I also don't know how to resolve this?

Any advice would be much appreciated!
Thanks in advance!

-MissAnonymous

Feb 22, 2008 21:12

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As u asked and were answered in another thread - your boyfriend can easily enter HK for 90 days - so you can both travel there ok.

I understand your difficulty with parents now that you have crossed cultures. It is very similar on the mainland where in some ways there is a bigger generation gap than between parents and kids in the west. The young people are adopting new ideas (but far from radical in western terms) but their parents are steeped in tradition. Two types: traditional Chinese and the hard times of the last 50 years. Change is very rapid for the 'older' people here. In many cases it is easier for an old westerner (like me) to relate to students than for parents. We understand the thinking of the young as we have had kids in the west, but the young here are so well behaved and polite they are 'easier' than our own kids were! Good luck with generation gap difficulties - try to be patient (and you aren't always right!).

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