How do you dress up in order to show condolence?

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How do you dress up in order to show condolence?
May 22, 2008 04:45
guestgrief	It was a time of grief. My question is: do you have some dressing codes when you attend the funerals? Are there some taboos? For instance, is it forbidden to wear some fashion accessories when you attend funerals?Is it true that people in the western countries are supposed to wear only black clothes? How about white clothes?

May 22, 2008 06:07

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Generally we wear black in westwern countries. However, this 'rule' is not applied strictly in some countries. I recently attended my father's funeral and we did not wear black ties as is the old custom. Mostly we were in dark colours but not solely black.

I have left instructions for my son that my funeral should not be a serious affair and have nominated a sum of money for a 'party'.... sometimes known as a 'wake'. In language terms it is a contradiction but we sometimes say 'death is a part of life'. The reality is it is part of the cycle.

Tragedies such as we have just experienced: Sichuan and Myanmar, are out of the ordinary. We cannot party after such tragedies. At the risk of offending some, I grieve for the living, the relatives left behind, rather than those who died. Some families have great hardship ahead. I always fear that we grieve today for the dead but too easily forget that others will need support for a long time into the future.

May 22, 2008 20:06

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The color code in my homecity is black or dark (in other regions of china, it's black or/ and white).

Mortality is fearful, but it's reality and natural cycle as Paul said. We Chinese see death is white Hallelujah unless it's prematured, death from diesease and natural disaster. Funeral is expensive and attended by up to dozons of people and end up with an expensive feast. On the fifth seventh day (35 days after the date of death), another expensive feast served accompanied by series activities. it's tradition, even in big city, this tradition still exists. what i stated on chinese funeral and related meorial activities is incomplete.

however, like Paul said, we should care more for the living ones and cherish the life!

May 25, 2008 19:54	#3
LEONARDO Points: Join Date: May 21, 2007 Status: Offline	At my hometown, people wear white clothes to show their condolence, and they often wear white ribbons on their heads.

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