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Three necessities of marriage in different eras:
Jul 15, 2008 22:33
  • PANADA
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Wanna get married? Men, you must have these three things: house, auto and money. These are the three necessities for marriage. Throughout the recent history, men were supposed to buy " 3 pieces of marriage gift" for the fiancees in different eras. " Three piecs" (3 necessities) has changed as time changed. The changes in marriage gifts reflected the changes in people's value and living standard. When were you born? What were the popular "necessities for marriage" when you got married?

Three necessities of marriage in different eras:

1970s: wrist watch, bicycles, sewing machines
1980s: fridge, colored-TV set, washing machine
1990s: air-condition, stereos, video tape recorder
2000s: house, auto, money
Jul 16, 2008 18:15
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  • DESTRUCKDOZ
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Panda, is this a universal thought among women? that men MUST have a house, car and money before suggesting marriage? Or is it just common among women that live in the city?

I heard an interesting saying among the articles that I have read that say "胃不可能充满爱" "Love cannot fill stomach" Being Chinese myself, I can understand the reasoning behind this, is that two people may be in love but if there is no roof over there head that it may end up in disaster because of all the disagreements. But damn, it sounds like these girls want a guy who owns a 4,000SF home, drives a benz with at least a few hundred G's in the bank.
Jul 16, 2008 20:25
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  • JCNILE123
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(((Wanna get married? Men, you must have these three things: house, auto and money.)))

Really?

And how is it that, I see so many miserably poor married people all over around the world I go?
Jul 16, 2008 21:03
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Piece of cake. The easiest to get are the material things. Just work hard and you can get them. We see this happening all the time.

There are demands from the woman’s side, too. She has to be very beautiful, a virgin and submissive not just to her husband but to her in-laws, too.
Jul 16, 2008 22:09
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This thread just reminds me of an article I have read before at Publicradio.org. The article says real estate is new Chinese aphrodisiac. I was impressed with the lead of the article :>> In big cities in China, single women may still be looking for men with charm, wit, intelligence and good looks. But what really makes them swoon is a man who owns a home. <<

In big cities in China, the housing price is roaring. Young men have to shoulder big financial pressure to buy real estate. Having a house symbolizes stability and safety. (Notice: Chinese cherished stability and immobility). Owning a house is an advantage for a single man in finding a spouse in big cities. The hiking house price has led to a new trend in China's big cities: average city-dwellers now prefer having daughters. Traditionally, Chinese people prefers having sons but now the heavy financial pressure to buy a house (it is almost a necessity of marriage in big cities) makes 'daughters" a jewel for families of average income in big cities. Usually, it is men’s responsibility to buy the real estate before suggesting marriage.
Jul 19, 2008 04:54
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  • DESTRUCKDOZ
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Leonardo,

What is the average price of a home in the city?
Jul 21, 2008 11:55
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  • SETH
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SHESGOTTOBE wrote: "There are demands from the woman’s side, too. She has to be very beautiful, a virgin and submissive not just to her husband but to her in-laws, too."

That may be true in some men's minds, but virginity today seems a bit over-rated. I heard that the Annual March of the Virgins in New York City was cancelled because one was sick and the other one wouldn't march alone! (heh heh)
Jul 21, 2008 13:11
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Ah....the wonders of capitalism.
A vicious circle going somewhere or nowhere?
Welcome aboard!!
Jul 21, 2008 19:57
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  • LEONARDO
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>>Leonardo,What is the average price of a home in the city? <<

Danny, it depends on which city you live in. In big cities like Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen, the average housing price is rather high. The house price is at least about 6,000 Yuan per square meter. Suppose a moderate-sized house, (100 square meters), you can calculate. In Xi'an, the housing price is about 3,500-4,000 Yuan per square meter. The average income of the residents is about 2,000 Yuan per month. You can see the difference.
Jul 23, 2008 22:19
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"I heard an interesting saying among the articles that I have read that say "胃不可能充满爱" "Love cannot fill stomach"

Hehe, that's just funny. Yes, "胃不可能充满爱" "Love cannot fill stomach". Food can fill stomach?^_^

Aug 3, 2008 23:51
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Any guess on what will be next for the 2010's?
Or for next decades; what's next?

Let me try one:

A good nanny, good lawyer, and a personal jet
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