What is the reason why Chinese people feel different about love?

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What is the reason why Chinese people feel different about love?
Oct 9, 2008 23:48
JOSHIRV57 Points: Join Date: Oct 9, 2008 Status: offline	Why do Chinese feel different about love and seperation in the marriage in comparison to working apart for long hours/

Oct 10, 2008 01:37

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I married a China citizen about 5 years ago and I used to spend 3 to 6 months of a year in China with her and her beloved parents. For the past 2 years i have only stayed with her and our little son for only a few weeks. She loves China and her life there and I, although a foreigner also love China, and the way of life there. Of course one day soon i will bring her over to my country to know about our way of life; i also want my son to be educated overseas because i feel we offer a better learning climate than homogeneous China - for example my son would be able to learn the english language faster than if he were to remain in China. During the past two years when we saw so little of each other, my love for her grows stronger than ever as those days when we fell in love. We speak on the phone often and each time i feel so much love for her and she for me. We often end our conversations with "i love you" in putonghua. My life overseas without the physical presence of my wife is hard because i am alone most of the time but i love my wife so much that i will never betray her trust and love by dating other girls - i will never ever lose any love for my wife because i treasure her as the most important person in my life.

For me "love" does NOT rank number 1 in a relationship. Love can only blossom if both are sincere, honest and trusting. Other attributes like "respect", "honour", "responsibility" must be in place first before "love" - otherwise the relationship is build on a foundation of sand which will easily collapse overnight. That is how i approach and live my life in relation to our married but separate (temporary) ways. In my mind, in my heart, there is only one soul partner, one lover whom i love forever - my wife.

Oct 10, 2008 05:05

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I can concur,in your feelings and what your situation is.You are lucky to have such a loving and remarkable marriage,which has its own rewards.Five years is a long
time,though for the Chinese,long term is always just fine to be without each other.Some husbands I know,only see their wives once a year,sometimes twice,as they
live over seventy-five miles away,but are working all the time.As a rule the wifes usually try to go see them. I have a very good phone card,but I have no idea what
way you call your wife. I will speak again to you,as you are seemingly and are a very good person.Its a treat to have read your reply.

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