| Twelve Golden Rules that a smart wife should observe! | |
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| Dec 18, 2009 03:10 |   |
 | The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very serious issue in China. Being someone’s wife, you have to handle the relationship to your mother-in-law. A smart wife knows how to handle the relationship very well. Here are Twelve Golden Rules that a smart wife should observe. No.1 Never quarrel with your mother-in-law even it was her fault. If you quarrel with her, your husband will be in a dilemma. And people will think that you are uneducated. No.2 Don’t slander her in the presence of your husband. Please bear in mind that she is the one who has raised your husband for many years. You can’t never replace her in your husband’s mind. Just think about this: Can you stand your husband slander your parents? No.3 Don’t speak ill of her in front of other people. If she learns what you said about her, a war will happen. Do you think your husband will back you up? A smart wife just praise her mother-in-law in public even she knows her mother-in-law speak ill of her behind her. Just remember this: Each family has a skeleton in the cupboard. Don’t let other people know it. No.4 If you live together with her, don’t get back to your parents’ home every time you get angry. When your husband goes to your home to pick you up, your parents might scold him and require him to treat you well. Then you probably feel better. But do you ever think of your husband? He might bear it one or two times. If you get back home every time you get angry, I am sure that he will break out one day. If your mother-in-law tells you “Don’t step into this house again” when you pick up your luggage and leave for your parents’ home, what are you going to do, getting back to your bedroom with tears in your eyes or insisting on leaving your husband? This time, your husband can’t help you. You know they are very obedient to their mothers. If you leave, she might persuade him to divorce. No.5 Even she doesn’t treat you well, please don’t exaggerate the facts when you talk to your parents or friends. No.6 Find an opportunity to let her know that you are not just a timid cat. Remember to do this in a clever way. |
| Dec 18, 2009 03:10 | #1 |
| No.7 If she is mean to you, you need to be generous to her. If you buy something for your husband, she will say nothing. If you buy some luxuries for you, she will tell you that you should not throw your money about like this. A clever way is, if you buy something, just remember buy a gift for her. I am sure that she won’t say anything to you. No.8 If she is a nagging person, please don’t take what she said seriously. What’s more, you needn’t have to argue with her if she picks on you. No.9 Don’t quarrel with your husband in the presence of your mother-in-law or tell your mother-in-law that your husband didn’t treat you well. As a mother, she is definitely on her son’s side. Be wise and observe this rule. No.10 Don’t complain that she treats others better than you. Some wives complain that their mother-in-law doesn’t cook for them or take care of their children or she doesn’t do the housework for them. Well, their mother-in-law actually has no obligation to cook for them, take care of their children or do the housework for them. They have finished what they should have done. They have brought up your husbands. No.11 Don’t take money issues too seriously and please do not try to get money from your mother-in-law. If your mother-in-law is very rich and she is willing to help you and your husband, you should appreciate what she has done. If she is not willing to give the money, you should never complain about it. She is rich but that doesn’t mean that she has to share her property with you. No.12 If your husband’s family is not as rich as yours, please don’t adopt a superior attitude and talk down to his family members. |
| Dec 18, 2009 20:53 | #2 |
| These rules only works in China. I don't think foreigners here have such a problem since they don't live together with their parents. But if you marry a Chinese girl, you have to learn some of these rules. |
Last edited by KEVIN0518: Dec 18, 2009 20:57 |
| Dec 29, 2009 15:36 | #3 |
| GUEST40252 | interesting yes. . but not really relevant to us foreigners. . we will just avoid the mother in law if she is causing problems.. . We definitely won't be living with her! |
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