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| Jul 3, 2011 18:46 |   |
| guest88218 | I am dating a chines lady 30 years of age , i myseld am much older, do any one see a problem with this and is it acceptable in china, She says she loves me , but wants to get married quickly is this normal, also she wants lots of things, home , electronic goods and cosmetic surgery, is this normal. I need help and guidance in this can any one advise me |
| Jul 4, 2011 03:29 | #1 |
| GUEST41889 | At the age of 30, a girl gets pressure from her parents as well as peers. So she needs to get married as soon as possible. Usually, a husband needs to prepare a house for his wife, not just monthly rental. She needs to inform you how much you need to give to her parents as part of "dowry" from a foreigner husband. Every year too, she needs to give to her parents money, to show that she has a good life. |
| Jul 4, 2011 05:38 | #2 |
| GUEST16688 | thank you GUEST41889 for the feedback , now i have abetter idea as to what i am getting in to , some thing i shall have to think about deeply for the future. |
| Jul 6, 2011 12:14 | #3 |
 | What is 'much older?' 10 years is okay, but 20-30 years is risky business in my book. The desire for many things is a red flag for me. My wife and daughter require very little in terms of material things. |
| Jul 10, 2011 07:11 | #4 |
| GUEST12982 | I see many traps here. Rethink your options. 1. the age difference. They will get their papers, material things and leave at the first chance they can. Red flag. If the age difference is very big, it will be difficult to prove a legit relationship and marriage. 2. the demands. Young and pretty girls want it all, and want it now. They don't want to wait for things and they endlessly want a lot of them. And they offer very little in return. Older and less pretty women drop most of their demands. They will accept a lot less, and willing to contribute more. Over 50 women become desparate, sometimes hopeless (with no hope to get married), with no demands and a lot to offer. 3. cosmetic surgery. why? to look more attractive to you? no! to look more attractive to her next husband, that's why. Big red flag. 4. parent support. My chinese wife never mentioned anything like this. i think it has to do with where the girl is coming from, but in 2011 things are different now. This is also a red flag. For a marriage to survive, it has to be based on "give and receive". Not only on "get, get, get" |
| Jul 30, 2011 22:24 | #5 |
| GUEST08572 | it is normal |
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