Who are your children named after, you or your wife?

Who are your children named after, you or your wife?
Oct 24, 2012 22:33
MJ1985 Points: Join Date: Jan 23, 2011 Status: offline	In China, it is a tradition that kids follow his/her dad’s surname. As time goes by, this tradition hasn’t been observed by young Chinese couple. In Shanghai, a husband divorced his wife divorced just because his son wasn’t named after him. According to the husband, he and his wife was introduced to each other in August, 2008. Then they fell into love. Two months later, his wife was pregnant. As a result, they got married in January, 2009 and their son was born in July, 2009. Before his son was born, he and his wife agreed that their first kid would be named after him. However, his father-in-law forced him to name the kid after his wife. Then, a conflict occurred between them. Since the end of December in 2009, he and his wife have been living separately. This May, his wife filed divorce to the court. She claimed that her husband had left home for a while and never taken care of his son. What’s more, they hadn’t had sex since he left home. Thus, she appealed to divorce. In July, 2012, he required to do paternity test to see if he is his son’s biological father. The result told him he is the biological father. His wife was heartbroken because her husband doubted he wasn’t the father of their son. Then she insisted on divorce. The court finally decided that they two could divorce. “Who should kids be named after” is the most important thing for a couple? Don’t they realize their son will be suffering if they divorce?

Oct 24, 2012 22:33

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In China, it is a tradition that kids follow his/her dad’s surname. As time goes by, this tradition hasn’t been observed by young Chinese couple.

In Shanghai, a husband divorced his wife divorced just because his son wasn’t named after him. According to the husband, he and his wife was introduced to each other in August, 2008. Then they fell into love. Two months later, his wife was pregnant. As a result, they got married in January, 2009 and their son was born in July, 2009. Before his son was born, he and his wife agreed that their first kid would be named after him. However, his father-in-law forced him to name the kid after his wife. Then, a conflict occurred between them.

Since the end of December in 2009, he and his wife have been living separately. This May, his wife filed divorce to the court. She claimed that her husband had left home for a while and never taken care of his son. What’s more, they hadn’t had sex since he left home. Thus, she appealed to divorce.

In July, 2012, he required to do paternity test to see if he is his son’s biological father. The result told him he is the biological father. His wife was heartbroken because her husband doubted he wasn’t the father of their son. Then she insisted on divorce. The court finally decided that they two could divorce.

“Who should kids be named after” is the most important thing for a couple? Don’t they realize their son will be suffering if they divorce?

Nov 8, 2012 21:58	#1
GLOOMYSUNDAY Points: Join Date: Jul 23, 2008 Status: Offline	I don't think it is a problem for a couple. At least I agree as Chinese has tradition to name child after her/his father. No matter whom the child was named after, the kinship between them is unshakable. Even the parents divorced, the child should remain his father's family name.
	Last edited by GLOOMYSUNDAY: Nov 8, 2012 22:00

Nov 10, 2012 08:07	#2
GUEST95106	How does a father in law "force" the husband to do anything against his will? It seems this was not a marriage of love.

Nov 11, 2012 00:59	#3
GUEST5434	Quote: Originally Posted by GUEST95106 How does a father in law "force" the husband to do anything against his will? It seems this was not a marriage of love. This is what I thought about too. How could he intervene in his daughter and son-in-law's relationship?

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