| How do western guys really think about their Chinese girlfriends | |
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| Apr 24, 2008 15:24 | #31   |
| GUESTAL | I think Chinese women are very cute. Caucasian women might be more glamorous in some ways, especially since they may have larger busts, hips, etc. However, Chinese women are very intelligent and hardworking, and I think very independent-minded, especially compared to Japanese or South Korean women. Of course, these are just generalizations. The important thing is the individual! |
| May 31, 2008 11:44 | #32 |
| GUEST90237 | I wanted to add my feedback to this thread based on my own personal experience. I an american who married a Chinese woman in Feb. '07, and am beginning to regret it. In the beginning she was attentive and seemed open. Before we were married she would write almost every day which seemed very open and honest. The first six months of our relationship she sent a Christmas present and a card for my birthday. After we got married, nothing. I sent her cards for Christmas, Chinese New Years and her birthday. She didn't even remember my birthday this year. Since we have been married, I visited her twice in China and the only communication we have now is by e-mail and webcam. I began to notice a long time ago that her letters were all sounding the same; very little about her life or what she was experiencing. The majority of the correspondences have been to say "I love you" and "I miss you", very little else. Besides saying very little the number of times she writes has dwindled down to once or twice a week. In the past we tried to meet on-line once a week and even that has become less and less.Last night she e-mailed to say something had come up and she couldn't meet me. Each time it happens she says it is work. I am beginning to truly believe that she only married me to obtain a visa. I would very much appreciate anyones thoughts on this situation and if anyone else has had similar experiences. |
| May 31, 2008 23:53 | #33 |
| GUEST08104 | It is funny,good to know you guys stories. I would like to say something contradict in the thread.To looking through Chinese eyes most of foreigners' girl friend just look so ordinary,not enough fashionable, good looking and a flossy body shape.I think that's why you guys mentioned so much about the girl friends were intelligent, caring, gentle blablabla...I dont think some really beauty and gorgeous girls would consider to be with foreigner guys,they will first prick up for some rich,mighty,handsome Chinese boys ...compare with foreign guy chinese boys are more traditional and reliable, they would be in love that marriage or responsibility comes first ,mean while they willing to give thier like fortune,time and life space for their love.Those girls who have highly education but not have fabulous condition will looking for 2nd choice, seems going with a foreigner can be good opurtunity to improve a life style.They will trying best to act like cute, gentle or caring to make themselves charming,please their foreign boy friend and make them willing to hang on. What if once they have get improve for life,living condiction or carring out the goal, along with the passion or feeling passing what will be the remain parts for the fade relation? |
| Jun 1, 2008 00:32 | #34 |
| GUEST04158 | this thread makes me laugh. I just got into a relationship with a Chinese girl. She's very sweet and affectionate, a lively and intelligent girl. I don't have to strain to come up with exciting things to do with her, she's happy just to walk with me and hold my hand. She says dating a white boy like myself is the craziest thing she's ever done. So here's to doing crazy things! |
| Jun 16, 2008 10:17 | #35 |
| GUEST69221 | I don't know guys, but my experience with chinese girls isn't nice. One of them screwed my boyfriend...I know it's his fault and yes I shouldn't generalize but hear me out. My boyfriend went to China for a year to train tai chi and do the whole "learn more about yourself" journey. We thought that our relationship can survive the distance, we thought the love is strong enough. However it was more difficult than we both imagined. There was a lot of love but talking to eachother brought mainly frustration, jealousy and pain. So soon we found ourselves confused and there was a big gap between us. He met this very cool and friendly chinese girl he told her about me and they became friends I suppose. He was lonely far from home and she was nice to him. However she had her own plan. So one day he got very drunk and she used his confusion and kissed him....he slept with her. Yes, he was the one to blame. But do nice girls do that? After the incident she changed...she was no longer the easygoing laidback cool friend...she became the pushy "you are gonna be my westerner" kind of girl. She started sending him strange emails where I love you appeared a lot but didn't feel quite right. He freaked out and stoped all the contact with her. He explained to her that he loved me and that he made a mistake. I went to China to save our relationship and stayed for three months, I didn't know about the girl at the time. She was still in town and she kept on playing her dirty game. She tried to arrange secret meetings with him, she sent a stranger to incidentally mantion their relationship in front of me, she even tried the old emotional blackmail. I found out about her when we got back to England and I was devastated. I know it is all very personal stuff and it could happen with any girl, but the chinese mindset and upbringing doesn't help. I was teaching English while in China and I had a chance to talk to group of chinese girls 20+. They all agreed that money and success is more important than real love. All of them said that they would be willing to leave their true love if it meant to have more money and comfortable easy life. Money and comfort is just too important and too attractive to the women of China. |
| Jun 16, 2008 10:18 | #36 |
| GUEST69221 | My boyfriend and I sorted out our problems and we are happy again. But the experience I had left me feeling very bitter about the chinese girls. Of course there are lovely ones, but I just haven't had the chance to meet them yet. My boyfriend's brother was in China with him and he now has got his chinese girlfriend in England. We are all living in the same house and I am sorry to say I don't see any of the goodness that you are all talking about. To me the relationship is very much like a business contract, he is very young (younger than her), inexperienced and stupid and she is soooo very patient, cold and determined to get what she wants. No love there! Yes you can say that if the men are so stupid they deserve to be used but trust me the girls can be very charming and they know what you want to hear. I am sorry I don't want to offend anybody...this is just my experience and I do admit I am deeply hurt by what have happened to me. |
| Jun 22, 2008 12:03 | #37 |
| GUEST22350 | HEE HEE HEE ! Don't life suck eh? There's good and bad in all nations. Why do they like Western men? Because we treat them nicely and we are better in bed than your average Han ! Look around you and see how many Chinese couples are having fun and laughing. Mutual misery is what I would call it. Why do we like Chinese girls? Western girls should take a look in the mirror if they want the answer to that ! They dont get blind drunk, loud, and embarrasing, and they never get a " headache ". Sure some are cold and calculating but aren't some women in every country? How do I REALLY feel about the girls here? They ROCK ! Small, tight and horny as hell once you get to know them.And there's millions of them ! Why would I trade that for a fat western slapper?!!! |
| Jun 28, 2008 10:09 | #38 |
| GUESTXIXI | i hope i can find a western man as a boyfriend. am not that bad, but love is rare happen to me. msn: hotmail.com|lingting219 |
| Jun 30, 2008 03:43 | #39 |
 | It's great to hear that most of foreigners who marry chinese girls are from their true heart,bcs of true love.....i used to wondering about this question also,why lot of chinese girls like foreigner even black foreingers,and why lot of foreigners like chinese gilrs though most of among them are not the beautiful one? |
| Jul 3, 2008 03:26 | #40 |
| Hey,how's going?i want to know some U.S.forum,is there anything you can help? |
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