| Chinese women on dating sites: theories/questions/opinions | |
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| Mar 25, 2007 16:38 | #11   |
 | LP: You didn't say who that girl is in your picture or why she is there.....did you get permission to use that girl's photograph? We had a thread on this subject some months back and I believe it was agreed we shouldn't publish other people's (meaning girl's) photos without permission - tho' I agree it is not a TGC rule. |
| Mar 25, 2007 21:20 | #12 |
| This also my asking, Is the web publisher get permission from the girl from where I get it It's open there. I did not read that thread. trying to read |
| Jul 7, 2008 17:03 | #13 |
| GUEST84110 | I have spent 4 years in China, and I must say, the majority of Chinese women are honest and forthright, but there ar ethose who have been scammed by their own people to involve themselves in a quick buck. However, if you are an astute person, and are not in a hurry, you can check out the woman you are dealing with. Have a cup of TEA with her or invite her for lunch and then start asking questions, most women will give you the truth in a short while, as most Chinese women have been taught not to lie. It appears to be different with most men. Try and date a woman from the city, a city that is close by and not hard to reach. I would suggest: Shenzhen, Guangzhou, Foshan, Xiamen, hangzhou, Shanghai, Wuhan and Beijing and of course Hong Kong...In these cities many Taxi drivers and transport people speak English, but if your stuck ask the Hotel clerk to help you with directions or to write down addresses for you. DON'T expect too much the first date...be cordial, and also a little distant, so you don't have to make a committement on the spot. Follow your 'Gut', if it doesn't feel good, it isn't. Try an date women with some degree of education and knowledge of basic English. Women from the farmm or country are not good prospects for you, as they are not travelled, and perhaps not too versed in sanitation. Shenzhen and Beijing offer the widest variety. But remember, when in Rome, do as the Romans do! Don't be arrogant or disrespectful. You will find most Chinese are lovely people, and willing to help you if they can. I have NEVER been asked for money or a handout, other than the "proffessional Beggars" you see in some area's. Just ignore and walk by. Don't try to rip anyone off, and be polite.....the old saying," what goes around , comes around" is always true! China is a beautifull country, so if your romance doesn't succeed, you can still enjoy yourself by taking in all of the scenery and places to visit. Good luck! |
| Jul 10, 2008 12:56 | #14 |
| I met my first Chinese girlfriend Nina through a dating agency, Nina speaks perfect English as she used to be married to an Englishman, we met here in London and enjoyed each others company, Nina was only looking for friendship and she will remain a friend forever. Nina was the person who introduced Jing to me knowing I'm the kind of man who would look after Jing, I knew Jing used to have help from a translator for her e-mails as she was honest enough to tell me, I even met the person who translated for her, though I cant remember her name, but I know she is a teacher of English to Chinese children. I don't have a problem with it, Jing loves me and that's enough for me. Alan |
| Aug 20, 2008 18:28 | #15 |
| Griz, If you meet with the woman YOU will be expected to pay for the translator. The price should be understood prior to the meeting. Another thing to be aware of is that the woman and translator may be working a SCAM. |
| Aug 21, 2008 05:36 | #16 |
| Griz: In my experience the lady would have a contract with a translator/matrimonial agent which would be along the lines of 10,000 Yuan for them if the lady marries a western man. The lady would ask the western man to pay it on most occasions. This could come at a surprise to the western man. As well as translators fees there will also be betrothal fees and wedding reception costs, visa costs and the cost of your wife's living costs until she comes to your country. Some men are asked to contribute to her parenst on a monthly basis eg $200 USD a month. Do not be afraid to ask questions up front. It maybe a strategy to not tell you about all these costs until you are emotionally involved. I have heard men who have married Chinese ladies say that it costs about $20,000 AUD from start to finish. This would include your trips over there during the post wedding to visa granting time. |
| Jun 25, 2009 14:03 | #17 |
| GUEST52250 | Almost all Chinese women in China don't understand and speak English so, using a translator is the only way for a Western man to communicate with them. Basically, speaking English is not a necessity in China plus the Chinese commercial world uses Mandarin. As for looking for a different life, the single biggest factor why this is happening is because the Chinese men in China don't know how to treat their own women properly. Think about it, who wants to go through the hassle of uprooting to a place where you are not familiar with the culture and can't even speak and understand the language? Western men have been well trained by the Western women to put up with a lot of crap. I can guarantee you Chinese men would not put up with half of it. |
| Jun 25, 2009 22:42 | #18 |
| ''Western men have been well trained by the Western women to put up with a lot of crap. I can guarantee you Chinese men would not put up with half of it. '' really guest, I have no idea what good western men and women really look like. I live in an immigrant country and have chance to deal with people of different races, i don't feel western men are better trained in this field. Sometimes i feel some of western men themselves are crap as much as their women. Certainly there are many excellent westerners out there! |
| Jun 26, 2009 22:43 | #19 |
| Uprooting happens everyday and for many reasons that leave no choice. Dont be fooled "guest" there are alot of dominant women that are not necessarily western. Communication is the "Only" key to a great relationship. Without it some kind or form of abuse whether it is mental or physical will appear,,, and if not corrected will lead to disaster and tears. LB |
| Jun 27, 2009 18:41 | #20 |
| I cannot disagree with u , LB. M. |
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