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| Jun 25, 2007 04:19 |   |
 | Chinese Style Divorce, have you ever heard of this term? If you havn't, you'd better watch the Chinese TV series " Chinese Style Divorce". In 2005, this soap opera became an instant prime-time hit since its release. The " Chinese Style Divorce" was a blockbuster, and created a record-high audience rate. The story is about the marriage of the younsters of 1970s and 1980s. The soap opera reflects the 70s and 80s generation's attitude towards marriage, love and family. This novel inpressed the audience with its statemant of Chinese Style Divorce. The TV series reveals that Chinese Style Divorce is that for the sake of the children, maintaining the flawed marriage until the kids grown up. For people of that generation, love and marriage was submited to family ties and responsibility. While, today's China is quite different. Young parents become more egocentric.Many out-of -wedlock children have been abandoned. Is " the Chinese style divorce" obsolete? Or is it still useful? Ready to hear your voice! |
| Jun 25, 2007 06:05 | #1 |
| ZOEY, Never heard the term...but marriage is an institution that was specifically designed to organize couples to raise children. Therefore, a 'Chinese style divorce' might be a better alternative for a child than growing up in a split-apart family (like I did). I hated having to spend time with two seperate adults and serving a the 'moderator' of disputes. I will reply that "Chinese style divorce" is useful for the betterment of society in general. (not to mention the child's well-being) Marriage is so special, so important for a healthy family that I feel it's a pity that these bonds are so easily dismissed. If I ever find the right woman and we have a child, I won't be hiring an attorney to discuss 'pre-nupitial' agreements. __WINDENERGY__ |
| Jun 25, 2007 23:17 | #2 |
| Windenergy, Sorry to hear your experience. You are quite right. "Marriage is so special, so important for a healthy family that I feel it's a pity that these bonds are so easily dismissed." I agree with you. A healthy and intact family is good for the Kid's growth. Marriage need both the two parties' devotion and responsibilities. |
| Jul 1, 2007 22:50 | #3 |
| The views of Chinese people towards marriage and family are experiencing a drastical change. Old norms are being abandoned by the young people. |
| Jul 11, 2007 20:53 | #4 |
| The divorce rate is increasing sharply in China. Blind faith in individual freedom and lacking a sense of responsibility lead to the rising divorce rate. Many innocent kids fell victim to divorce, had to grow up in an unsound family. |
| Oct 29, 2007 13:40 | #5 |
| GUEST47170 | In fact, Chinese style divorce happens everywhere in America, Europe, and other countries. It is an international style. |
| Oct 31, 2007 04:41 | #6 |
| GUEST47170, Really, it is an international style? My stereotyped idea is that westerners value individual pleasure and personal interests. When coping with the marriage, they have little consideration for their kids. Chinese style divorce do good to family stability and the upbringing of kids. |
| Nov 7, 2007 03:17 | #7 |
| Chinese Style Divorce is beneficial to the stability of family and the healthy growth of kids. However, parents have to sacrified their own happiness for the sake of their children. Parents have to make a choice between " being altrustic" and " being self-centered". |
| Nov 25, 2007 18:52 | #8 |
| The guest is right. Chinese style divorce as described is being practiced in the West too. I know many people here who wants out of their marriage but would put up with it, at least until the child or children turn 18, when the kids are of legal age and they don't have to fight custody. However, this is only viable if ther marriage is not unhealthy for the children, like if there is obvious physical or emotional abuse. There are couples who would opt for a divorce if they know that the situation is totally unhealthy, not just for them but for the kids as well. They don't want their kids seeing them shouting or physically hurting each other. It is more damaging to a child than being in a broken family. As many would say, life is short. Nobody should be forced to stay in an unhappy marriage. If it is true that you only live once, you deserve to have a happy life free from pain. |
| Nov 26, 2007 07:41 | #9 |
| happy life free from pain?? Difficult to get. |
| Nov 26, 2007 18:28 | #10 |
| I think a failing or broken marriage is more harmful to a child than if the parents are split up. This walking on eggshells is equally stressful compared to yelling and shouting. If the parents divorce, they can explain to the child why it happened. If the child understands, that is a huge lesson for the child for their future. They will then understand how to prevent this from happening in the future and will likely mature the child, if it's handled properly by the parents. I think pre-marital counseling is very important, because even the smallest things become a big thing when you get married. People who say "marriage changes everything" are really making an understatement. There are also Christian pre-marital counseling places, and from what I've heard, those are great! - Moondollars Faithvine.com |
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