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| Aug 19, 2007 04:01 | #11   |
 | I agree with Evening, love and marriage are totally different, loving each other doesn't mean a harmony family in the future. Marriage is very practical, it is a turning point of one's life. Once married, working for living necessities and supporting the whole family will be all the content of the life. To some extent, one's happy life in the late years is based on a stable and peaceful marriage, so my dear friends, please be serious when deciding to marry some one. |
| Aug 26, 2007 19:25 | #12 |
| I'm not really interested in returning to the 1950s. In the past, Chinese men had multiple wives too, didn't they? ...It seems to me that many women lived lives of quiet desperation back then. Can you imagine being the fourth wife and having to show deference to the first three wives so she can get along with them? I cannot say for sure, but judging from literature I've read of that period, marriages had problems too. I also found something strange about older Chinese films. (ie first or second generation Chinese filmmakers). There seems to be an inordinate number of women committing suicide. I wondered if just the filmmaker's creation, or a true reflection of the desperation that afflicted women back then. There's a country that people say is very 50's, which is Korea. Maybe you can visit there and see what their marriages are like. I can tell you that they have their own problems too, just different ones from those in a Western country. |
| Aug 27, 2007 00:12 | #13 |
| CHYNAGYRL, Where you get this information, Chinese people have 4 wives? Its only possible for the Muslims. |
| Aug 27, 2007 05:27 | #14 |
| Quote: CHYNAGYRL, Where you get this information, Chinese people have 4 wives? Its only possible for the Muslims. Haha yes she is right in some way: money can make you Muslim or even better. Actually many 老板 (laoban which means boss) or CEOs have several houses with several wifes and several families, their existence is hidden by the boss to his legitimate wife by constant work travels to other big cities in China where they usually stay more than one day. A house and money can sometimes buy a wife. It is a good example of the separation of love and mariage for Chinese people: the mariage stabilizes your life, garanties your future... This is it. Some girls and guys just want this, they'll find love somewhere else (In another relationship). |
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