| New " Arranged Marriage" in China | |
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| Aug 22, 2007 20:45 | #11   |
 | Griz, do you mean economic or financial independence declines both men and women's dependence on marriage? That is to say, without a partner, women and men still feel they can survive and live a happy life. |
| Aug 23, 2007 21:21 | #12 |
| Parents care too much about their Children. Perhaps, only when one becomes a parent can he/she understands parental love. |
| Aug 28, 2007 04:52 | #13 |
| "New Arranged Marriage", what distinguished the new from the "Old Arranged Marriage" is probably that youngsters of this age will have the final say and parents can only try to hunt the potential candidates for their children. In the past, it was parents who had the final say. If parents chose a spouse for you, you had no choice but to accept. Otherwise, you would be regarded as' unfilial'. You would be blamed by the people in your neighborhood. |
| Aug 28, 2007 13:09 | #14 |
| I concur with JIMMYB. Though the youngsters of today do not understand why their parents are following the culture of arranged marriage, they may understand why when those youngsters have their own children. Although the reasons for arranged marriages have changed from past to present. In the past arranged marriages were used because of family or community interest. Usually with some input by the children being arranged in the marriage. Arranged marriages in the present have a slight sliver of that motivation, but instead of 1 choice they are given a multiple of choices. Ultimately it is up to their children to decide who it will be. Sorry I'm digressing. In my personal experience I have been placed in the position of an arranged "meeting" by my grandparents, which didn't pan out. They respected my choice, even though they keep their pursuit of finding someone for me. It isn't much of an inconvenience for me nor am I bothered by it. Who knows, maybe they will find a girl that I would like to marry before I do. For anyone who has a parent that was or is involved in "new arranged marriage" I wouldn't let it bother; they are doing it because they care about you. As I said previously. "Who knows, maybe they will find [that special someone] for you before you do." |
| Aug 28, 2007 13:13 | #15 |
| This way of thinking stemmed from the respect that I have for my elders. I respect their choices enough to at least meet with whoever they find. I feel that is the least that I owe them for raising me to be the way I am today. |
| Aug 28, 2007 19:34 | #16 |
| CHRFONG, very well puts. What you said is very profounding. You are a filial child of your parents. It seems that you have a very deep understanding of your parents. You are a model son/daughter. Your parents should be proud of you. |
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