Spare the rod, spoil the child

Spare the rod, spoil the child
Nov 12, 2007 10:35	#21
CARLOS Points: Join Date: Sep 10, 2007 Status: Offline	I am so very happy we here in Finland are not the only stupid laws having country. I am not happy because there are some other countries with same kind of stupid laws. There is a huge difference between beating a kid badly and spanking for punishment and to change child´s behaviour. The need for those laws has rosen to protect children for maltreatment. In a way it is a good advice not to punish kid when You are angry. Punishing when angry courses maltreatments. Also it is said that punishment should come immediately, because child should still be afraid of punishment, otherwise it might be difficult to child to understand why he / she was punished now and why not earlier when "tracks were hot". Using force is not important for punishment, it is important to keep kids respect to one´s parents. There is no need to punish with force only to keep that respect. Anyway, children should know that their parents COULD use force when punishing, if they wanted to. One day my daughter came home from school showing a paper given to her at school. In paper was said no physical punishment is allowed to parents and if Your parents punish You physically, You can phone the police or to this number (children´s helping phone). So, kids are taught at school they can do whatever they want and if parents spank them they can call the police and they punish the parents. I have never spanked any of my daughters, no need. Maybe if there had been a need, I would have. If someone does, I don´t judge him/her. I think parents have a right and responsibility to do whatever ( not WHATEVER) they think is needed to help their children to become good citizens. Carlos

Nov 12, 2007 10:35

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CARLOS
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I am so very happy we here in Finland are not the only stupid laws having country. I am not happy because there are some other countries with same kind of stupid laws.

There is a huge difference between beating a kid badly and spanking for punishment and to change child´s behaviour. The need for those laws has rosen to protect children for maltreatment.

In a way it is a good advice not to punish kid when You are angry. Punishing when angry courses maltreatments.

Also it is said that punishment should come immediately, because child should still be afraid of punishment, otherwise it might be difficult to child to understand why he / she was punished now and why not earlier when "tracks were hot".

Using force is not important for punishment, it is important to keep kids respect to one´s parents. There is no need to punish with force only to keep that respect. Anyway, children should know that their parents COULD use force when punishing, if they wanted to.

One day my daughter came home from school showing a paper given to her at school. In paper was said no physical punishment is allowed to parents and if Your parents punish You physically, You can phone the police or to this number (children´s helping phone).
So, kids are taught at school they can do whatever they want and if parents spank them they can call the police and they punish the parents.

I have never spanked any of my daughters, no need. Maybe if there had been a need, I would have. If someone does, I don´t judge him/her. I think parents have a right and responsibility to do whatever ( not WHATEVER) they think is needed to help their children to become good citizens.

Carlos

Nov 12, 2007 21:56

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SUNNYDREAM
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Carlos,
"Using force is not important for punishment, it is important to keep kids respect to one´s parents. There is no need to punish with force only to keep that respect. Anyway, children should know that their parents COULD use force when punishing, if they wanted to."

This is an abosolutely good idea. I under your tactic is a kind of " Force Deterrence" not the "Nuclear Deterrence" in the Cold War era. LOL! It is a good tactic. I want to tell parents: " Force is in your hand, but you'd better show restraint." Many times, the punishment will easily be turned into maltreatment.

Sep 11, 2011 02:40	#23
GUEST21243	A few years later... Still on the receiving end your sisters and you ? gmail.com\|giorgio.imzadi

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