Is it possible to be friends with your GF/BF if you two break up?

Is it possible to be friends with your GF/BF if you two break up?
Dec 25, 2007 19:42	#41
JIMMYB Points: Join Date: Feb 7, 2007 Status: Offline	SHESGOTTOBE. I didn't say that I couldn't believe that women also could be magnanimous. There are some women who are very magnanimous. I remembered that a woman in a TV series told her husband that she would forgive her husband three times if he committed "one night stand". That is her limit. What do you think of her? Is she magnanimous? Quote: It depends on what comforting his ex-gf means. If it is just talking, no problem. But if he is having a relationship with her or sleeping with her to comfort her, BIG PROBLEM. If he just sleeps with her one time, will you forgive him just as the woman in the TV series? Quote: I will dress him up very handsomely, spray on perfume on him and then deliver him to her and tell her, “Here, you can have him. You don’t have to share him with me anymore.” I am sure that no one would like to share her husband or his wife with another woman or man.

Dec 25, 2007 19:42

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SHESGOTTOBE. I didn't say that I couldn't believe that women also could be magnanimous. There are some women who are very magnanimous. I remembered that a woman in a TV series told her husband that she would forgive her husband three times if he committed "one night stand". That is her limit. What do you think of her? Is she magnanimous?

Quote: It depends on what comforting his ex-gf means. If it is just talking, no problem. But if he is having a relationship with her or sleeping with her to comfort her, BIG PROBLEM.

If he just sleeps with her one time, will you forgive him just as the woman in the TV series?

Quote: I will dress him up very handsomely, spray on perfume on him and then deliver him to her and tell her, “Here, you can have him. You don’t have to share him with me anymore.”

I am sure that no one would like to share her husband or his wife with another woman or man.

Dec 26, 2007 18:32

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“There are some women who are very magnanimous. I remembered that a woman in a TV series told her husband that she would forgive her husband three times if he committed "one night stand". That is her limit. What do you think of her? Is she magnanimous?”

“If he just sleeps with her one time, will you forgive him just as the woman in the TV series?”

That’s like saying, “Ok, you can cheat on me 3 times but that is your limit!” LOL! Sorry, I’m not that magnanimous, if that’s how people would define magnanimous. I have too much self-respect for that. If not, I won’t be single right now. O_o

I am not her and she has every right to her decision. But if I am her, I would question myself on why am I still staying with him. That is also setting a bad example, not just for the children if they have children but to other people as well. The message it is sending out is it is ok to cheat or sleep around when you’re married. No, it is not ok. I love my peace of mind, thank you very much. ^_^

Maybe I’m being bullheaded on this, maybe I sound so uncompromising, too strong for some but that’s how much passionate I am when it comes to the things I value. There are some things that I would compromise on but there are a few that I won’t.

Dec 26, 2007 20:52	#43
JIMMYB Points: Join Date: Feb 7, 2007 Status: Offline	Quote: That’s like saying, “Ok, you can cheat on me 3 times but that is your limit!” LOL! Sorry, I’m not that magnanimous, if that’s how people would define magnanimous. I have too much self-respect for that. If not, I won’t be single right now. Well, SHESGOTTOBE. I just want to know how you define 'magnanimous'.

Dec 31, 2007 19:14

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"Well, SHESGOTTOBE. I just want to know how you define 'magnanimous'."

Sorry, JimmyB. I missed this thread for sometime. Someone who is magnanimous in my opinion:

One who forgives with sincerity, not just for show, otherwise, it’s not really forgiveness at all.
One who forgives yet doesn’t condone any wrong doing or any injustice, otherwise, it is a great injustice to all.
One who does not take advantage of another person’s kindness or weakness and never looks down on others who have less in life.
One who is able to put himself/herself in someone else’s shoes, able to accept that other people have a different point of view and let them be.
One who never takes revenge, never holds grudges, never let bitterness poison his/her being.
One who doesn’t test others.
One who doesn’t think that it is ok if he/she is doing it, but not ok if others are doing it.
One who is generous, but knows that he/she can’t give anything that he/she doesn’t have.
One who acknowledges that everyone has a dream, that if he/she loves someone, it is only fitting to let them reach for that dream. Let them fly if needed be.

Jan 1, 2008 01:23	#45
DODGER Points: Join Date: Jul 15, 2007 Status: Offline	It seems to me just by reading this and other threads that Jimmy and Shegottobe are a perfect match? Is this the start of something big…. But I could be wrong. Dodger.

Jan 1, 2008 09:00	#46
LIONPOWER Points: Join Date: Dec 11, 2006 Status: Offline	We will happy if that happen.

Jan 1, 2008 19:04	#47
SHESGOTTOBE Points: Join Date: Nov 23, 2007 Status: Offline	Wahaha! Tsk. Tsk. You guys better not tease JimmyB like that. ^_^” Remember, he’s a very sensitive guy. He might not be able to appreciate the joke. ;-) We’re just sharing our thoughts here and having fun as we go along. Right, JimmyB? Peace! ^_^ V

Jan 1, 2008 21:27	#48
SUKKI Points: Join Date: Dec 29, 2007 Status: Offline	It is possible to be friends only after both have found another partner, but it is also just possible -_-

Jan 2, 2008 04:09	#49
DODGER Points: Join Date: Jul 15, 2007 Status: Offline	She, Certainly didn’t want to upset Jimmy or you but you do seem to both on the same wave length. And as LP has said we would all be very happy… I hope we all get an invitation or at least some pics of the day. Just kidding.. Dodger.

Oct 20, 2010 01:48

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I just dug out this thread accidentally. I just read another post “How long does it take to forget first love”. Actually I just tried to post a similar topic like this. But I got this one.

On Oct 23, my ex will get married with another guy. Two days ago, I received a text message from her. She told me that she was going to get married on Oct. 23 and hoped that I could be present on that occasion. I made up an excuse and declined her invitation. I sent her a text message and said I wasn’t able to be there because I had to attend another friend’s wedding. She didn’t say anything.

I just feel that she wants to take this chance to make up with me. We haven’t seen each other for almost five years. During last spring festival holiday, we met at the meeting of old classmates. Both felt embarrassed because other old friends knew our relationship.

Although I have my girlfriend now, I will still feel a bit embarrassed if I go to her wedding. You know what my girlfriend said when I told this to her? She said I shouldn’t have declined her invitation. Then she could go to see her with me. And she would let my ex know that I am happy now.

“If you once loved each other deeply, you couldn’t be friends after you broke up.” Someone said.

To me, it is real. When you see her, you can’t help thinking of happy time when you two were together. It is uncomfortable, especially on her wedding day. And do not try to force you to forget her/him. Just leave some space in your heart to put your memory with her.

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